Future career

Erin · Guru

Future career

Sonya · Guru

Erin wrote:
Sonya wrote:
At this point, I can see Charlie as a scientist of some kind. He's very very inquisitive and very focused on the way things go (think sheldon from Big Bang without the giant brain, lol).

He says he's like to be a paleontologist or an oceanographer or a professor. I can see all of that.

Josie told me this morning she wants to be a street.

Like the street we live on.

The other day she wanted to be an ice cream shop.

I see actress, performer (hopefully not a stripper, lol), or conman in her future.

Maybe a lawyer. Or an author - she's all imagination.

I hope they are both rich because they are our retirement plan.

:brow

lol

-- Edited by Erin on Tuesday 5th of April 2011 11:17:26 AM

lmao!

Completely seperate career paths!

FoxyRoxy · Guru

Manuel who is 13 has said many times that he wants to be a professional swimmer and a lawyer.

Diego (10) wants to be a scienticis or a reporter. Not completly sure about it.

And Marcos just wants to get married. He wants to be 30 so he can give kisses to the girls...

Erin · Guru

Kiera is interested in animals, and the ocean, etc. We are trying to convince her to be a marine biologist. lol.

I dont know if I have ber asked her. Lol. I think she would say a veterinarian.

I heard a very interesting talk the other day on kids in which the author of a book was discussing research that shows that introducing the concept of being a good "learner" to kids in stead of "smart" actually shows a marked difference in kids' motivation and increased intelligence over the years. The thinking is that kids that are told they are smart end up feeling that if something is dificult or not immediately mastered, then they must not be smart, or not as smart as people thought, and live in fear of someone finding out. So, if they dont try, or attempt something, no one will discover that they are not as smart as they thought. In contrast, teaching kids they have an unlimited capacity to learn and increase their knowledge motivates them to do so, and they will continue to strive for it and have a love of learning.

Thought I would throw that our there, since I think I suffer/ed from that, and I think Kiera will as well. I have made such an effort to reinforce that she is smart and intelligent, but, might have missed the mark some as far as instilling the love of learning.

Of course, I cant find the author or the cite now.

Sonya · Guru

I heard of that study before, Erin.

Since then, I stress to Charlie (or Jo) how proud I am of how hard they work on different things.

"That picture is beautiful. I can see how hard you worked to color in the lines", etc

I almost never say they are smart.

Charlie is a crazy perfectionist. He was telling me last night that he is slow doing his work at school because he wants it to be perfect. I have no idea how to handle this. I want him to be careful but apparently he's always the last one finished.

When we were at the open house at his school the other night, he was showing us a folder of his work. There was a paper from October and he put a B instead of a D on Played. He was frantic to correct it. I had to distract him so that he wouldn't go get a pencil and fix it.

CoffeeQueen · Guru

Erin wrote:
Kiera is interested in animals, and the ocean, etc. We are trying to convince her to be a marine biologist. lol.

I dont know if I have ber asked her. Lol. I think she would say a veterinarian.

I heard a very interesting talk the other day on kids in which the author of a book was discussing research that shows that introducing the concept of being a good "learner" to kids in stead of "smart" actually shows a marked difference in kids' motivation and increased intelligence over the years. The thinking is that kids that are told they are smart end up feeling that if something is dificult or not immediately mastered, then they must not be smart, or not as smart as people thought, and live in fear of someone finding out. So, if they dont try, or attempt something, no one will discover that they are not as smart as they thought. In contrast, teaching kids they have an unlimited capacity to learn and increase their knowledge motivates them to do so, and they will continue to strive for it and have a love of learning.

Thought I would throw that our there, since I think I suffer/ed from that, and I think Kiera will as well. I have made such an effort to reinforce that she is smart and intelligent, but, might have missed the mark some as far as instilling the love of learning.

Of course, I cant find the author or the cite now.

I have read the same thing, Erin. Interesting enough, Allie loves to learn. She just does not always like to share her knowledge. She honestly surprises everyone because she observes and listens to everything. I think because she tends to be less vocal that we think she is not interested, but it is not the case for her.

daisy · Guru

Erin wrote:
Kiera is interested in animals, and the ocean, etc. We are trying to convince her to be a marine biologist. lol.

I dont know if I have ber asked her. Lol. I think she would say a veterinarian.

I heard a very interesting talk the other day on kids in which the author of a book was discussing research that shows that introducing the concept of being a good "learner" to kids in stead of "smart" actually shows a marked difference in kids' motivation and increased intelligence over the years. The thinking is that kids that are told they are smart end up feeling that if something is dificult or not immediately mastered, then they must not be smart, or not as smart as people thought, and live in fear of someone finding out. So, if they dont try, or attempt something, no one will discover that they are not as smart as they thought. In contrast, teaching kids they have an unlimited capacity to learn and increase their knowledge motivates them to do so, and they will continue to strive for it and have a love of learning.

Thought I would throw that our there, since I think I suffer/ed from that, and I think Kiera will as well. I have made such an effort to reinforce that she is smart and intelligent, but, might have missed the mark some as far as instilling the love of learning.

Of course, I cant find the author or the cite now.

yes i read something similar and completely forgot all about that - thanks for bringing this up!

Robin · Guru

FoxyRoxy wrote:
Manuel who is 13 has said many times that he wants to be a professional swimmer and a lawyer.

Diego (10) wants to be a scienticis or a reporter. Not completly sure about it.

And Marcos just wants to get married. He wants to be 30 so he can give kisses to the girls...

So you're not letting him kiss girls until he's 30?

Smart move.

Robin · Guru

Sonya wrote:
I heard of that study before, Erin.

Since then, I stress to Charlie (or Jo) how proud I am of how hard they work on different things.

"That picture is beautiful. I can see how hard you worked to color in the lines", etc

I almost never say they are smart.

Charlie is a crazy perfectionist. He was telling me last night that he is slow doing his work at school because he wants it to be perfect. I have no idea how to handle this. I want him to be careful but apparently he's always the last one finished.

When we were at the open house at his school the other night, he was showing us a folder of his work. There was a paper from October and he put a B instead of a D on Played. He was frantic to correct it. I had to distract him so that he wouldn't go get a pencil and fix it.

Mark super-loves all things creative--art projects, drawing, painting, clay, everything but he HATES art class at school. He'll pitch a fit if he realizes it's Thursday. I asked him why, and he said it is because everyone else is on the last thing and he's still finishing the first part of his artwork.

He hates being way behind or last.

Alyssa · Guru

Erin wrote:
Kiera is interested in animals, and the ocean, etc. We are trying to convince her to be a marine biologist. lol.

I dont know if I have ber asked her. Lol. I think she would say a veterinarian.

I heard a very interesting talk the other day on kids in which the author of a book was discussing research that shows that introducing the concept of being a good "learner" to kids in stead of "smart" actually shows a marked difference in kids' motivation and increased intelligence over the years. The thinking is that kids that are told they are smart end up feeling that if something is dificult or not immediately mastered, then they must not be smart, or not as smart as people thought, and live in fear of someone finding out. So, if they dont try, or attempt something, no one will discover that they are not as smart as they thought. In contrast, teaching kids they have an unlimited capacity to learn and increase their knowledge motivates them to do so, and they will continue to strive for it and have a love of learning.

Thought I would throw that our there, since I think I suffer/ed from that, and I think Kiera will as well. I have made such an effort to reinforce that she is smart and intelligent, but, might have missed the mark some as far as instilling the love of learning.

Of course, I cant find the author or the cite now.

that is so interesting to me. I tend to only do things I'm good at and Ethan is the same way. Maybe this would help.

re: marine biologist, I always said that's what Ethan should be but mostly cause I wanted him to go to school in Cali and become a surfer and I could follow him there.

Domimom · Senior Member

Dominic wants to be a doctor. He has been obsessed with the human body since about 3 1/2 and loves anything that has do with it and knows alot about it. He has every book he can find on it and just loves to learn about it. He also says he wants to be a policeman and scientist. He has it in his head that he can do all 3 things at the same time.

tabatha · Senior Member

LDSMOM wrote:
I sincerely hope my girls will get to be just moms when they grow up. If they can't, I think Rebecca will be a dancer or a dance teacher. I'm not sure about Crystal. She's interested in a lot of things and has a lot of confidence, but she's really only very good at humor. Kyle is only interested in games. It's a fight to get him to do much of anything else. He likes taekwondo and is decent at it, but he won't want to do it all the time. My guess is he'll be into computers like his dad. I'm not sure about Brenna or Brittany yet. Brenna likes ballet and is very good at it, but she has a ton of energy and not a lot of patience so I'm not sure if she'll like it enough to do it all the time or not. Brittany doesn't seem to have any real interests at all. She likes ballet and she likes math but she's much more interested in pleasing people and getting them to like her, which worries me. There's so much potential for a bad self-esteem. She does like to read and is beginning to like writing and making up stories, so maybe she'll be a writer.

i find this curious given your seeming apathy towards parenting...and life in general.

you don't portray motherhood as the most exciting or fulfilling thing in your life and therefore i'm confused why you would have that aspiration for your daughters?

its also worth noting that while not all dreams or careers lend themselves to parenting, the two are not mutually exclusive.

LDSMOM · Senior Member

tabatha wrote:
LDSMOM wrote:
I sincerely hope my girls will get to be just moms when they grow up. If they can't, I think Rebecca will be a dancer or a dance teacher. I'm not sure about Crystal. She's interested in a lot of things and has a lot of confidence, but she's really only very good at humor. Kyle is only interested in games. It's a fight to get him to do much of anything else. He likes taekwondo and is decent at it, but he won't want to do it all the time. My guess is he'll be into computers like his dad. I'm not sure about Brenna or Brittany yet. Brenna likes ballet and is very good at it, but she has a ton of energy and not a lot of patience so I'm not sure if she'll like it enough to do it all the time or not. Brittany doesn't seem to have any real interests at all. She likes ballet and she likes math but she's much more interested in pleasing people and getting them to like her, which worries me. There's so much potential for a bad self-esteem. She does like to read and is beginning to like writing and making up stories, so maybe she'll be a writer.
i find this curious given your seeming apathy towards parenting...and life in general.
you don't portray motherhood as the most exciting or fulfilling thing in your life and therefore i'm confused why you would have that aspiration for your daughters?
its also worth noting that while not all dreams or careers lend themselves to parenting, the two are not mutually exclusive.

I won't get into my religious beliefs here, but my statement has everything to do with them.

-- Edited by LDSMOM on Wednesday 6th of April 2011 10:21:54 AM

Alison · Guru

Mason loves to draw and says he wants to be an artist. I'm going to look into some art day camps for this summer, and I'd also like to find a photography class for him because I think he'd get less frustrated with that. He mostly draws stick figure people, LOL.

I can see him as a politician or a teacher. He is Mr. social butterfly, and loves to play school, even by himself. When he goes to bed at night, he usually asks "Can I teach my class in my bed?" because he likes to play school before falling asleep. So sweet.

3s_a_crowd · Guru

Kaylen wants to be an artist.

she loves to draw

Erin · Guru

Alison wrote:
Mason loves to draw and says he wants to be an artist. I'm going to look into some art day camps for this summer, and I'd also like to find a photography class for him because I think he'd get less frustrated with that. He mostly draws stick figure people, LOL.
I can see him as a politician or a teacher. He is Mr. social butterfly, and loves to play school, even by himself. When he goes to bed at night, he usually asks "Can I teach my class in my bed?" because he likes to play school before falling asleep. So sweet.

Alison, forgive my terrible Cali geography, but, if Carlsbad isnt too far you should definitly take him to one of Mark Kistler's workshops. They have one going on now (Apr. 4-8) but it looks like he is going back that way in August. www.markkistler.com

Kiera took a week long workshop when he came to our town, and it was awesome. (I have a picture of her and Mark Kistler on my Facebook page).

-- Edited by Erin on Wednesday 6th of April 2011 04:24:34 PM

Lizzy · Guru

Erin wrote:
Kiera is interested in animals, and the ocean, etc. We are trying to convince her to be a marine biologist. lol.

I dont know if I have ber asked her. Lol. I think she would say a veterinarian.

I heard a very interesting talk the other day on kids in which the author of a book was discussing research that shows that introducing the concept of being a good "learner" to kids in stead of "smart" actually shows a marked difference in kids' motivation and increased intelligence over the years. The thinking is that kids that are told they are smart end up feeling that if something is dificult or not immediately mastered, then they must not be smart, or not as smart as people thought, and live in fear of someone finding out. So, if they dont try, or attempt something, no one will discover that they are not as smart as they thought. In contrast, teaching kids they have an unlimited capacity to learn and increase their knowledge motivates them to do so, and they will continue to strive for it and have a love of learning.

Thought I would throw that our there, since I think I suffer/ed from that, and I think Kiera will as well. I have made such an effort to reinforce that she is smart and intelligent, but, might have missed the mark some as far as instilling the love of learning.

Of course, I cant find the author or the cite now.

I cannot agree with this more!! Growing up, I was always labeled "smart" (and I really never had to study or anything...everything came really easy - except math. I ended up quitting school in my freshman year (I was almost 15). Around the time I was 18, I wanted to go to college but i had to get my GED first. So, my dad happened to find a book for me at a garage sale to study for it (it turns out it was from like the 60s when the test was much much harder) - so I studied like a mad fool - I was pregnant by this tiime and basically spent most of my time studying. I took the test when andrew was 6 weeks old. I ended up scoring really high on all parts (math was my lowest but I could not believe I passed it at all) I was so happy. But, after that experience, I realized that if I put my mind to it, I could do "anything" LOL well, not anything ;) Once I was in college (this was much later, btw), most of my classes came easy, except economics. I wanted so badly to drop that course. but, i buckled down and ended up getting a B in the class.

I plan to share these experience with Ivy because they mean so much to me. hard work does pay off!!

Lizzy · Guru

I have no idea what ivy will be - she loves cats and loves to play vet. so, that is what she always says (and she wans to be a mommy too

FoxyRoxy · Guru

Robin wrote:
FoxyRoxy wrote:
Manuel who is 13 has said many times that he wants to be a professional swimmer and a lawyer.

Diego (10) wants to be a scienticis or a reporter. Not completly sure about it.

And Marcos just wants to get married. He wants to be 30 so he can give kisses to the girls...

So you're not letting him kiss girls until he's 30?
Smart move.

At least i'm trying to keep it that way...

but i don't know how long it will last...

Alicia · Senior Member

Raven asked how much college for a doctor and I said 12 years so she said she wanted to be a dentist(she loves going to the dentist). With a teen and toy story she knows what college is. With the way she is now I would say some sort of performer. She is always putting on a show with singing, instruments, art, acting, dancing.