Is this how you pictured it when you were a child? or looking at your parents, did you imagine this is how they felt?
I have to say that I feel like an adult and have for most of my life, but i do not feel the same way I envisioned my parents felt at this age. I am not sure why exactly. Maybe it is that they had more life experiences. but, also, when i was a child, the line between parents and kids was well-defined, ie. I didn't "hang out" with my mom or get to sit in the room with her while she visited with other adults. There was a clear separation.
I guess as for my age, I definitely do not feel like I thought 40 would feel (whatever that means) but I guess i always just feel about 35. Interesting, but I asked my father this question and he was in his late 60s and said he always just felt about 34...lol maybe age is just a number ;)
honestly I feel like I did at 17, just with more responsibility. Every year we get summer missionaries who are from College and I always feel their age, but Im older now.
I also hate taking a responsibility role. Like in the nursery there are teenagers who help out in there. But I dont feel like I should tell them to change a diaper. I feel like Im not that much older and hate to be "that" person. Even though I am much older and in that role.
I don't feel like an adult. Not in the way that I thought I would anyway. I mean, I am a mom so obviously, I am an adult. I see teenagers and feel much older but it always amazes me that I'm 30, LOL. (Which I don't think is old but was such an old age when I was younger.)
I don't know. I'm not a proper type of person. I feel like a big kid a lot of times. I am the baby of my family and in every job I've had I've been the youngest so I've always felt younger, if that makes sense.
IDK-I am not even sure what my vision was for my life when I was younger. I know it wasn't this-but that was really mostly about material possessions. I always figured I would be farther along in life by this stage-both with where I lived and financial security, but also because I always thought I would have had kids younger. I mean, here I am about to have a 3rd and I will be 36 when s/he is born-I thought I would be done by 30!!! So that didn't work out the way I had planned either.
But I always wanted to be a mom and stay home with my kids, so in that regard, I definitely feel like my adult life has mirrored what I envisioned. And while it is harder than I realized, of course, I do love it.
I really feel like I have gone through definitive stages in my life. Like when I was in college, I felt like a quasi-adult, and then when I was out of college and working, I felt more like an adult, and so on. It has been a gradual progression up to this point, and I have felt like I really enjoyed each of those stages. From basically having no responsibility to some but still a lot of freedoms, to now where I feel like I am pretty much responsible 100% of the time.
And then physically, I feel like I am my parents age, lol. I need to work on that a bit.
Maybe it's from being the youngest, like Juni said. My parents are still right around the corner; my parents still help out whenever we need.
When I was a kid, I thought I'd be a published author or a school teacher but I love staying home with my kids. Plus I play with them a lot so that makes me feel less like an adult . . . until they start fighting. And I have to be strict. Then I feel like an old lady.
I'm not sure what would make me feel more like an adult though.
I think that a lot of that has to do with my sisters being older. I'm 10 and 18 years behind them, so for me, when they were 28, that was like a foot in the grave. I never imagined I'd be starting college at 27, or that we'd struggle as much as we have with various aspects of our lives. Especially since we married and had Hannah so young (married at 20, and then had Hannah at 22) - I thought by now we'd be back home, super stable, in our forever house, living the dream. I haven't really let go of what all I envisoned for how our lives would be, and since we aren't there, it's like that contributes to me also not feeling the age that I thought that would happen at.
My family got me a cake that said, "Happy 23rd Birthday" a year or two ago, because I constantly tell people that's my age - not to lie, but because that's the age I've stayed in my head. It embarrassing when you get id'd and they ask you your age to verify since you don't look like your picture, and you give the wrong age. By a lot.
But, I totally feel like an adult when I'm falling asleep on the couch at 9-10 pm, or trying to get out of bed in the morning and my bones are creaking and achy.
Maybe it's from being the youngest, like Juni said. My parents are still right around the corner; my parents still help out whenever we need.
When I was a kid, I thought I'd be a published author or a school teacher but I love staying home with my kids. Plus I play with them a lot so that makes me feel less like an adult . . . until they start fighting. And I have to be strict. Then I feel like an old lady.
I'm not sure what would make me feel more like an adult though.
i've totally thought about this before. i do feel like an adult, for sure. but i also feel like life hasnt changed much since i was a teenager. (and really it hasnt, except for the kids).
i've made a lot of choices that have sort of just kept a total consistency between my teenage years and my current age - i went to grad school for 7 yrs, and chose a career where you are still in that same setting - so that part hasnt changed drastically (except now i'm teaching - but still, it's constant learning, and still a university setting) - and i married my HS boyfriend, and we live in teh house i grew up in - so seriously so much is exactly the same. plus most of my old friends live here still, and my kids go to my same elementary school, etc.
BUT, i definitely feel mature, and feel like i thought i'd feel as a mom. it could be because i'm in this house - i see SO much of my mom in myself - so i definitely have taken the mom role.
i agree though, when youre the youngest kid, you stay young. my sisters will cook the entrees on holidays and i'll get like, the cheese platter - lol.
I am always shocked when I think about my age (I rarely think about it so when I do or someone asks me I generally have to use a bit of math to figure it out). I feel like I got to 23 and stopped getting any older. I think I behave like an adult and sometimes feel like 'ubermom' with the whole packing lunches and ferrying to and from activities, baking cookies etc. I feel weird when people call me 'Mrs R' or refer to me as a woman. I'd still love to spend the day being totally selfish and just reading and listening to music - but I guess everyone feels like that. I never for one minute thought that my mum would rather be doing things for herself than things for us, though I'm sure she did - she always seemed such a ideal mum to me. So I see my desire to do my own thing as an immaturity thing, and it's probably not.
I'm going to be 39 in May. I can't believe that. That seems so OLD! When we had Andrew 5, almost 6, years ago, we were the oldest people in the child birth class. Oldest parents in PreSchool. Now one on the oldest parents in K. It is really strange sometimes. I hear the other moms talking sometimes and they seem like teenages, though they are in their 20's.
My husband is going to be 46 this month. He has forced retirement at 60. I can't believe that I'm married to someone who will be retired "soon". That blows my mind.
I feel much older physically then I am, having so many illnesses and surgeries. I'm needing to have knee and shoulder surgeries. I feel old.
But, mentally, I feel younger then I am. I think having young children helps with that. Also, though, I feel like grown ups have it all together and know more then I know. Sometimes I think I missed out on getting my...book...guide...IDK, whatever everyone else has that tells them how to have it all, and I am behind. Parents are "supposed" to know everything. I don't, so I am missing something.
I do feel like an adult. Most of the time I guess. My 16 year old makes me feel young and my 5 year old makes me feel old. With my 5 year old a lot of people that I'm around started their family with the 5-6 year old and that's when I was done. So I'm around more parents my age(I was always the only one my age with my teen) but feel too old to have any more children.
