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Lizzy


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I feel horrible :(
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As most know, i broke my leg by falling off of a ladder trying to paint the ceiling.  I was on the top of a 6 foot ladder and just lost my balance and fell - and the pain was so excruciating...i knew immediately that i broke my leg from the pain and the way it was twisted.  I called an ambulance because seriously, i thought i would go in shock and it was only me and ivy there.  they took x rays and sent me home with pain meds and a brace. i got an MRI done and am going back to the doctor on Thurs to see what the long term plan is.  The swelling has really gone down but it still hurts especially if I move around too much.  so, i have just been trying to rest as much as I can. I have crutches but we have a three story house and it is torture going up and down the stairs. 

so...while the pain from my leg hurts, it is the realization of how selfish my family is that really stings.  I asked Andrew to come over the weekend to help me b/c don was going out of town. I didn't hear from him one time and he sends me a message on FB on Sunday saying he is sorry but his phone wasn't working and he had no ride over.  so typical.  then, we had to have don's sister watch ivy b/c no one in my family offered or could do it - so don had to drive two hours oout of the way to drop her off and pick her up (this is in addition to the three hour commute he has anyway).  I was here alone the weekend and i was on the third floor and could not go up and down the stairs so he packed me a cooler and just left some food for me. My sister came over twice and told me she would come back with dinner on sunday and never showed up. i was just so depressed over it all. it is really hard to depend on people so much. 

so, he is leaving this weekend again and  this time leaving ivy  here. it is going to be hard as hell but i have to go up and down the stairs to take care of her and me.  and again, no offers of help from my family. :(  it's times like this that i really miss my mom heart.gif

sorry for the long vent/ 



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Liz i'm so sorry. How awful for you. Do not be sorry for the vent. I wish I lived close to you, I would help you in a heartbeat. Any neighbors or friends that might help? I don't know if you go to church but if you do would anyone there help you? What an awful feeling. I hope something can be figured out :(

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Picture-Perfect wrote:

Liz i'm so sorry. How awful for you. Do not be sorry for the vent. I wish I lived close to you, I would help you in a heartbeat. Any neighbors or friends that might help? I don't know if you go to church but if you do would anyone there help you? What an awful feeling. I hope something can be figured out :(



 Thanks Amber heart.gif   I am sure our neighbors would help..they are so sweet but they are elderly and probably  not used to a 5 year old.   Tomorrow don is going to ask the girl who watches the kids for latchkey if she might be able to help out on Saturday with ivy and also to bring her home on Friday night.  If she can help, that would be great because my main concern is that ivy will be bored here with just me and i am not mobile. i can't drive either.  hell...i can barely walk on crutches....another new motivation that i need to lose some weight :bag:



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Oh Liz, I wish I lived close by. :(

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

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I'm so sorry! What you're dealing with just plain stinks on so many levels. I hope everyone comes to their senses and pitches in. Hang in there!!

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Is any of Ivy teachers able to help? How about the parents from school?

I know...it sucks...

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I'm so sorry, Liz. cry.gif This makes me sad, and angry for you.

I wish I could help. Praying that your family wakes up and that you're able to get some help.

((hugs))

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I'm so sorry, Liz. This is just terrible.

I hate your family for treating you this way. BOO family.

I wish I was closer. I'd be there in a minute.



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Liz - that really stinks. You are such a go getter that just the sting of having to sit on your rear and not be doing something is painful but to have family no shows makes it even worse. I hope for a speedy recovery for you so that you will not have to rely on others and so that you can get back to what you love doing.

p.s. my husband put a new backsplash in our kitchen a few weeks ago. I think about you constantly when I look at it b/c I know how much you love stuff like that (i love it getting done, by someone else but I do not have your passion or vision to actually DO
anything myself) and I always think you'd probably like to see the before/after pictures.   He did the new counter back in July and it took us this long to decide
on the backsplash and get it done. I will post some before and after pics  to give you something to look at :)

I hope you have a good day today heart.gif

-- Edited by kris on Wednesday 26th of January 2011 06:34:13 AM

-- Edited by kris on Wednesday 26th of January 2011 06:35:31 AM

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i'm so sorry liz.  cry

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I feel so bad for you Liz! How horrible!!

I really hope your family comes to their senses soon but maybe they need a little push? Sometimes people get caught up in their own lives and don't realize how much their help is needed. Could Don mention something to them? You really need the help right now.

HUGS!!!!!

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Liz - I'm sorry your family isn't being more helpful. I hate that for you.



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liz, that sucks :(  i had a similar thing happen before.  when i used to have bad autoimmune issues, my joints got so swollen and painful that it took me about 30 minutes to get out of bed in the morning because it hurt so bad.  i couldn't get down the stairs, had to go down on my butt.  it was awful.

i had similar feelings because it is awful to not be independent, and it is even worse when you realize people don't care enough to offer to help.  i think people just have a hard time sympathizing sometimes.  they don't realize how bad it is to be so helpless, and they have their own busy lives. 

i'm sorry, liz.  thinking of you.  i hope you heal quickly.

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I'm so sorry Liz. I wish I lived closer. I can't imagine how hard it is.

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Liz, this bites a big one! I really hope that you are able to work something out with the gal you mentioned. I hope Ivy is super helpful when she is with you. I would not be surprised that your family just has a hard time accepting you need help because you are the strong one. I seriously doubt that they see you needing help, because you are the one always there supporting them. It is probably a little to threatening for them to admit. Unfortunately that makes it sting even worse. Maybe this gal will end up being a great find and will be able to continue to give you a little help and Ivy a great mentor. Thinking of you and praying for a quick recovery.

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thanks everyone! (i posted here because honestly, i was like "maybe my family is normal and that is how everyone is") but to see all of you saying, "i would help" makes me see that it is not "normal" and that is not how people treat eachother. Don's family has always shocked me because they are so generous....his sister loves ivy and always wants her to come stay there etc. whereas my family doesn't show it at all and never offers for her come over or anything. if i ask is she can come over they roll their eyes and say it is so much trouble. (when i say "family" i actually mean my sister and niece -i also have a brother but he is out of the picture completely...not sure why, but he doesn't come around or call or anything). andrew is another story all together. i know he cares, but he is so caught up in his own life and troubles it is hard for hime to see past them.

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happylib wrote:

Liz, this bites a big one! I really hope that you are able to work something out with the gal you mentioned. I hope Ivy is super helpful when she is with you. I would not be surprised that your family just has a hard time accepting you need help because you are the strong one. I seriously doubt that they see you needing help, because you are the one always there supporting them. It is probably a little to threatening for them to admit. Unfortunately that makes it sting even worse. Maybe this gal will end up being a great find and will be able to continue to give you a little help and Ivy a great mentor. Thinking of you and praying for a quick recovery.


Thanks libby! You always have such  a great perspective heart.gif

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Lizzy wrote:

thanks everyone! (i posted here because honestly, i was like "maybe my family is normal and that is how everyone is") but to see all of you saying, "i would help" makes me see that it is not "normal" and that is not how people treat eachother. Don's family has always shocked me because they are so generous....his sister loves ivy and always wants her to come stay there etc. whereas my family doesn't show it at all and never offers for her come over or anything. if i ask is she can come over they roll their eyes and say it is so much trouble. (when i say "family" i actually mean my sister and niece -i also have a brother but he is out of the picture completely...not sure why, but he doesn't come around or call or anything). andrew is another story all together. i know he cares, but he is so caught up in his own life and troubles it is hard for hime to see past them.


liz, another thing is make sure you are asking for help and let people know what a hard time you are having.  i know it is hard to ask for help and you want to just hope that they will be there, but it is likely that people don't understand how hard it is for you right now. 

 



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crystal wrote:

liz, that sucks :(  i had a similar thing happen before.  when i used to have bad autoimmune issues, my joints got so swollen and painful that it took me about 30 minutes to get out of bed in the morning because it hurt so bad.  i couldn't get down the stairs, had to go down on my butt.  it was awful.

i had similar feelings because it is awful to not be independent, and it is even worse when you realize people don't care enough to offer to help.  i think people just have a hard time sympathizing sometimes.  they don't realize how bad it is to be so helpless, and they have their own busy lives. 

i'm sorry, liz.  thinking of you.  i hope you heal quickly.


so sorry crystal that you have gone through this as well.  ((hugs)) 

 



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kris wrote:

Liz - that really stinks. You are such a go getter that just the sting of having to sit on your rear and not be doing something is painful but to have family no shows makes it even worse. I hope for a speedy recovery for you so that you will not have to rely on others and so that you can get back to what you love doing.

p.s. my husband put a new backsplash in our kitchen a few weeks ago. I think about you constantly when I look at it b/c I know how much you love stuff like that (i love it getting done, by someone else but I do not have your passion or vision to actually DO
anything myself) and I always think you'd probably like to see the before/after pictures.   He did the new counter back in July and it took us this long to decide
on the backsplash and get it done. I will post some before and after pics  to give you something to look at :)

I hope you have a good day today heart.gif

-- Edited by kris on Wednesday 26th of January 2011 06:34:13 AM

-- Edited by kris on Wednesday 26th of January 2011 06:35:31 AM



Thanks Kris!  I am always so impressed with your house renovation....i know your husband is really talented.  I'd love to see pics.  We will have to make all thos "fun" decisions for our new house soon. 

 



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