Maybe what I mean by “acting divorced” is that I want us to renew our vows not of marriage but of egalitarianism. My husband is a feminist, but somehow I’ve taken charge of the lioness’s share of our domestic responsibilities even though he doesn’t make more money or work longer hours than I do. And the more I do, the more helpless and unhelpful he becomes. Our parenting sometimes resembles a game of chicken, and I almost always lose.
you know, when we were separated, i was thinking of how much easier my life was going to be because efe would have to take full responsibility of things when i dropped mason off with him. i also thought how we would BOTH be better parents. he would be forced to spend the time with mason and i would get a break which would make me enjoy my time with mason much more.
you know, when we were separated, i was thinking of how much easier my life was going to be because efe would have to take full responsibility of things when i dropped mason off with him. i also thought how we would BOTH be better parents. he would be forced to spend the time with mason and i would get a break which would make me enjoy my time with mason much more.
I have said it before (to don) but in some ways, I had it easier as a "single parent' with andrew. although I had tons of family support which I don't have now.
you know, when we were separated, i was thinking of how much easier my life was going to be because efe would have to take full responsibility of things when i dropped mason off with him. i also thought how we would BOTH be better parents. he would be forced to spend the time with mason and i would get a break which would make me enjoy my time with mason much more.
I have said it before (to don) but in some ways, I had it easier as a "single parent' with andrew. although I had tons of family support which I don't have now.
I single parent enough when Kenneth's gone, and it is NOT easier for me at all.
Not even a little.
I do the majority of the household work around here, he does help with the dishwasher chore and the laundry when I'm working, but he bathes the girls every night when he's home and that helps me tons, especially with Presley. I can't hardly bathe her by myself anymore she's getting so tall.
you know, when we were separated, i was thinking of how much easier my life was going to be because efe would have to take full responsibility of things when i dropped mason off with him. i also thought how we would BOTH be better parents. he would be forced to spend the time with mason and i would get a break which would make me enjoy my time with mason much more.
I have said it before (to don) but in some ways, I had it easier as a "single parent' with andrew. although I had tons of family support which I don't have now.
you know, when we were separated, i was thinking of how much easier my life was going to be because efe would have to take full responsibility of things when i dropped mason off with him. i also thought how we would BOTH be better parents. he would be forced to spend the time with mason and i would get a break which would make me enjoy my time with mason much more.
I have said it before (to don) but in some ways, I had it easier as a "single parent' with andrew. although I had tons of family support which I don't have now.
I single parent enough when Kenneth's gone, and it is NOT easier for me at all.
Not even a little.
I do the majority of the household work around here, he does help with the dishwasher chore and the laundry when I'm working, but he bathes the girls every night when he's home and that helps me tons, especially with Presley. I can't hardly bathe her by myself anymore she's getting so tall.
Having been on both sides of this coin, I have to say that when my dh is gone it is more difficult alone than when I was a single parent. Our lives are not set up to accomadate being a single parent. I have to encorporate dh into our world if he is home or not and the disruption of him being gone leaves gaps that otherwise are covered. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying single parenting is a breeze either.
you know, when we were separated, i was thinking of how much easier my life was going to be because efe would have to take full responsibility of things when i dropped mason off with him. i also thought how we would BOTH be better parents. he would be forced to spend the time with mason and i would get a break which would make me enjoy my time with mason much more.
I have said it before (to don) but in some ways, I had it easier as a "single parent' with andrew. although I had tons of family support which I don't have now.
I single parent enough when Kenneth's gone, and it is NOT easier for me at all.
Not even a little.
I do the majority of the household work around here, he does help with the dishwasher chore and the laundry when I'm working, but he bathes the girls every night when he's home and that helps me tons, especially with Presley. I can't hardly bathe her by myself anymore she's getting so tall.
well, it would be easier for me because i would drop mason off to efe and he has no choice but to do the work while i get a break. being married, he knows i will do it.
oh...the reason i said "easier" as a single parent is because I had the family support (I do not have any of that now for reasons) and so it pretty much falls on me and he is gone alot too. the main thing is the household stuff and then when he is tired or sick. i have learned really to just not have these huge expectations (i did it this week actually so my house looks trashed..lol)
I think a lot of it is mentality too. When you are married and someone is "there" but not helping it's worse than not having anybody there at all. I think. I think if I have to do all the housework it's worse when I have someone else that *could* help but chooses not to than it is to have only myself to rely on.
We've definitely come a long way in that regard and I do have a great husband who helps around the house and with the kids. But there have been glimpses where it's been just me and it's so hard knowing that it didn't have to be like that but it was.
