Oral sex and middle school--

Alicia · Senior Member

RE: Oral sex and middle school--

apies · Guru

Alicia wrote:

Regarding the bus I think there should be another adult on the bus. The bus driver and cameras are not enough.

that might happen IF the districts start charging for bussing like they have here.

bussing is no longer a given in our district. if you live farther than x miles and/or have to cross a major road, there will be a bus available to you at 50c per ride.

if that option is of interest to parents, i could see that the fare could include enough of a charge to cover an extra person. but knowing how people bitch about taxes, i'm guessing they won't pay for that either.

happylib · Guru

Robin, it was many, many, many moons ago, but I did ride the bus from the Germantown area to Collierville to go to hs. I will say that on the bus ride I did get quite and education, but it wasn't academic. No one was having sex on it but there were kids smoking pot and tearing up the bus with knives and throwing parts out the window. I know that you are in a different area than that and I hope that after that much time someone got a clue.

FoxyRoxy · Guru

CoffeeQueen wrote:

you cannot ever know what will happen when your kids step out the door. However, working in a MS for over 10 years there are a few things I know I learned and will use regards to media, etc.

I will have a time in my house where cell phones, iPhones etc, will be turned over. My kids will not be allowed to keep them in their room at night. Most and I know it happens during day, but most poor facebook and texting takes place in evening. I am shocked that most kids are up texting at 10 pm + and there is no way they need media after 9pm in their room, IMO. If they need to still do homework ona compter late at night it will be in a centeral location.

Raising teens/ preteens is so hard now. I think that stayin in touch with your kids friends/ parents is huge. Harder to pull off crap with the moms talking.

i agree with this. Manuel (who is 13) turns over to my room around 9:30 his itouch (because he can do wii) and his cel. I give to him in the morning.

CoffeeQueen · Guru

You know what is weird. We do not bus at all here in the districts where I live. So, I thankfully do not have to battle the bus issue. I am thinking because we do not pull from that far away. Our districts are zoned pretty small.

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littlecashew · Member

This issue has gone in waves at our school based on the group in Jr. High. I was shocked the first time the BJ ring was discovered, but we've all become very conscious of the length of time of bathroom breaks. Doesn't help what happens at home unsupervised during lunch though.
The bus problems have never been an issue since our buses have kids ages 5-15 on them... the 7 year olds tell us EVERYTHING they see on the bus and it has resulted in very mellow bus rides.

The things kids do at such an early age scares me half to death for my girls, but I just keep hoping our influence will affect them a little as they get into the older grades.

Juni · Guru

FoxyRoxy wrote:

CoffeeQueen wrote:

you cannot ever know what will happen when your kids step out the door. However, working in a MS for over 10 years there are a few things I know I learned and will use regards to media, etc.

I will have a time in my house where cell phones, iPhones etc, will be turned over. My kids will not be allowed to keep them in their room at night. Most and I know it happens during day, but most poor facebook and texting takes place in evening. I am shocked that most kids are up texting at 10 pm + and there is no way they need media after 9pm in their room, IMO. If they need to still do homework ona compter late at night it will be in a centeral location.

Raising teens/ preteens is so hard now. I think that stayin in touch with your kids friends/ parents is huge. Harder to pull off crap with the moms talking.

i agree with this. Manuel (who is 13) turns over to my room around 9:30 his itouch (because he can do wii) and his cel. I give to him in the morning.

That is a great idea. I think more parents should take cell phones from their kids at night.

muffy · Guru

Juni wrote:

FoxyRoxy wrote:

CoffeeQueen wrote:

you cannot ever know what will happen when your kids step out the door. However, working in a MS for over 10 years there are a few things I know I learned and will use regards to media, etc.

I will have a time in my house where cell phones, iPhones etc, will be turned over. My kids will not be allowed to keep them in their room at night. Most and I know it happens during day, but most poor facebook and texting takes place in evening. I am shocked that most kids are up texting at 10 pm + and there is no way they need media after 9pm in their room, IMO. If they need to still do homework ona compter late at night it will be in a centeral location.

Raising teens/ preteens is so hard now. I think that stayin in touch with your kids friends/ parents is huge. Harder to pull off crap with the moms talking.

i agree with this. Manuel (who is 13) turns over to my room around 9:30 his itouch (because he can do wii) and his cel. I give to him in the morning.

That is a great idea. I think more parents should take cell phones from their kids at night.

I have tims each night as well. So far he has been a joy. Life is 100% basketball and while girls fawn all over him, he prefers to hang with his 2 best bball friends.

He is in 9 th grade and never has asked to socialize with friends. He goes to school, plays bball, and we pick him up at the school after. All weekend he is with us except when he plays a bball match. Baby boy prefers to hang out with his parents and watch a movie together Saturday night.

I asked him if kids are doing sexual acts at school (no busses here) or parties. His reaction was horrific and he said NO! They do apparently kiss from time to time. A mouth kiss is accepted as people kiss on the cheeks here all.the.time.

But then, I figure it's just a matter of time till all this shit crosses the ocean. Just in time for lala. Omg, I am scared!

Juanita · Guru

mctex wrote:

I agree with everyone else that it can happen anywhere.

Other than that, I have no thoughts... but I most definitely share your concern.

I really feel for those raising kids this age right now because the whole social media thing is completely uncharted waters... I'm hoping by the time our 5 yos get to that age, there will be better tools and, more importantly, wisdom as to how parents are supposed to combat this stuff.

I'm hoping Jesus comes to get us before then biggrin

Alicia · Senior Member

apies wrote:

Alicia wrote:

Regarding the bus I think there should be another adult on the bus. The bus driver and cameras are not enough.

that might happen IF the districts start charging for bussing like they have here.
bussing is no longer a given in our district. if you live farther than x miles and/or have to cross a major road, there will be a bus available to you at 50c per ride.
if that option is of interest to parents, i could see that the fare could include enough of a charge to cover an extra person. but knowing how people bitch about taxes, i'm guessing they won't pay for that either.

I don't think they would go for it here. I would pay(more taxes or per bus ride) if it put another adult on the bus.

kris · Guru

feeling a little stupid to not have a rule that phone gets turned over to me at 9:30 p.m. The rule is he cannot be on it after that but I've only taken it when he's in trouble . . . lots of times I quietly walk up to his bedroom door after that time and he is actually passed out. But I know there have been random times that I've seen a text at 10:00 p.m. Annnd I do not check up on him every single night. I'm just trusting that he's following the rules.

stupid mom!

Alicia · Senior Member

I pay 4.99 extra to have parental controls for his phone. Everything is blocked during school(except 911 and us) and 10pm-7am on school nights. He would be up all night talking if I didn't do that.