Kyle and Kevin go to the same school but are in different classes. Each of their classes is made up of 3-6 year olds.
Kevin has been invited to a birthday party for a girl in his class, she will be turning 6. Since Kyle isn't in the class, he wasn't invited. And while the two class inter-mingle a little bit, Kyle doesn't know all of the kids in Kevin's class.
Do you think it would be okay to RSVP and ask to include Kyle? Or would it be better to just let Kevin go on his own?
Whenever we've had a party, I've always expected that siblings would tag along, but that could just be me?
Kyle and Kevin go to the same school but are in different classes. Each of their classes is made up of 3-6 year olds.
Kevin has been invited to a birthday party for a girl in his class, she will be turning 6. Since Kyle isn't in the class, he wasn't invited. And while the two class inter-mingle a little bit, Kyle doesn't know all of the kids in Kevin's class.
Do you think it would be okay to RSVP and ask to include Kyle? Or would it be better to just let Kevin go on his own?
Whenever we've had a party, I've always expected that siblings would tag along, but that could just be me?
wwyd?
jolynn, since my 2 are similar ages, we've already had this issue (but not from the same school).
emily was invited to a birthday party at chuck e cheese a few months ago, but no siblings were invited. as a result, i asked a friend to watch jake while i took emily (matt was not here yet). i explained to jake that someday he will have a party to go to that emily was not invited to and she would stay home. he didn't really seemed to care - just "ok, mom."
i think the most appropriate thing to do is take the invited child only.
Just send kev in. As they get older it is hard to includes siblings too with. Plus you put the person in a uncomfortable situation where she has to say yes or look bad.
This will most likely happen a lot now and vise versa if Kyle has a party from his class.
I'm not sure that all parents are aware the boys have a brother in the other class, so I wasn't sure. Plus since this child is older than Kevin, I figured there would be kids Kyle's age there too.
But yeah, I think I like the idea of Kevin going alone anyway since he's always in Kyle's shadow. It might be good for him to branch out on his own a bit, too.
So at the CEC party, how did they word the invites? I mean, if siblings were invited would you expect it to say something along those lines (Emily and family...or...Emily and sibling(s)...)
Just send kev in. As they get older it is hard to includes siblings too with. Plus you put the person in a uncomfortable situation where she has to say yes or look bad.
This will most likely happen a lot now and vise versa if Kyle has a party from his class.
That's true...hadn't thought about it that way. Thanks, Melissa!
I can't believe we've already had 3 bday party invitations in Kevin's class but none from Kyle's yet.
I think it just depends. I think it's a little different because of the age situation for you. Last year it was just Gavin getting invites and I brought just him. There was one time though that the birthday boy was someone we had a playdate with before and who has a little brother that is Owen's age. We did the playdate with both boys.
The way I did it was that I asked (only that one time) if it would be okay if Owen could come and that I would like to pay for him coming if she thought it was okay. She said it was totally fine and was going to invite him anyway and that he was included on the amount anyway. All the other situations though I just brought Gavin. I do like the idea of branching out on their own but I know how hard it is because we are so used to the boys being a pair.
Kyle and Kevin go to the same school but are in different classes. Each of their classes is made up of 3-6 year olds.
Kevin has been invited to a birthday party for a girl in his class, she will be turning 6. Since Kyle isn't in the class, he wasn't invited. And while the two class inter-mingle a little bit, Kyle doesn't know all of the kids in Kevin's class.
Do you think it would be okay to RSVP and ask to include Kyle? Or would it be better to just let Kevin go on his own?
Whenever we've had a party, I've always expected that siblings would tag along, but that could just be me?
wwyd?
jolynn, since my 2 are similar ages, we've already had this issue (but not from the same school).
emily was invited to a birthday party at chuck e cheese a few months ago, but no siblings were invited. as a result, i asked a friend to watch jake while i took emily (matt was not here yet). i explained to jake that someday he will have a party to go to that emily was not invited to and she would stay home. he didn't really seemed to care - just "ok, mom."
i think the most appropriate thing to do is take the invited child only.
I agree with this as a general rule.
Not surprisingly, we have had this issue a bunch of times as well. Usuallly if it is at a place, like Rolly Pollies or the bounce house or something, the numbers are such that just the one child can come. And that is ok-it hasn't been a huge deal for my girls. Those places have strict number guidelines.
However, we had Anna's friend party at a local park, and people asked if sibs could come. It was NOT a big deal at all to me, and I even made a note that sibs were welcome. In that instance, where it is at a place that is not closed in and such, I think it is fully ok to ask if the other child can come.
But indoors and for someone in his class, yea, I say just the one child. They take it a lot better than you think they will, actually.
There comes a time when you have to tell them that they are going to get invited to parties seperately. That mom probably doesn't want to have to pay for extra kids. I'm sure everybody has a sibling and that adds up. She probably budgeted for the kids in the class only.
