Reward Charts/Sticker Charts

mctex · Guru

Reward Charts/Sticker Charts

CoffeeQueen · Guru

I do not do rewards so to speak.

We bought this.

allie gets a weekly allowance for clearing table after dinner, cleaning room/straighten up.

Then she has daily things that are just expected. The chart alone was rewarding for her. WE hung it in her room. We thought about the kitchen, but did not want it there. There are tons of magnet options.

-- Edited by CoffeeQueen on Wednesday 27th of October 2010 09:29:19 AM

Chrissie · Guru

We did sticker charts quite awhile ago. M2 was probably between 2-3. Back then we would just put simple things on there. I don't even remember what. We also had a blank spot for him to earn "extra" stickers.

A few months ago we started using marbles and a jar. When he does something he's suppossed to without being told(washing his hands, putting his dinner plate away, sitting at the dinner table etc.) I will give him one or two marbles.

He gets marbles for getting dressed, brushing his teeth, making his bed, lots of others I'm sure that I can't think of right now!

When he is doing something he's not supposed to be doing, he will loose marbles(usually 2 at a time)

When he fills up his jar, he gets to pick out something that he wants. So far, he has got a wii game, and somthing else that I forget right now. He has just filled up another jar and wants to get roller skates for his prize, so we will have to get that.

This system has helped us tremendously!!!! We actually haven't done any timeouts since starting this. He really hasn't lost that many marbles either. Just the threat of him loosing them is usually enough to make him behave.

Sometimes when he's in a mood or whatever and not wanting to do what I need him to, I will tell him he can get extra marbles, and it usually works!

Sonya · Guru

we tried and while it gave us a good week, it wasn't sustainable.

when we started school, charlie was a total nutcase. Absolutely out of control.

Josie, who had been a bit of trouble in the summer, watched in horror and behaved beautifully.

after a particularly horrid day, we started a sticker chart.

I did two pieces of construction paper, drew 6 column grid on each and explained that for every school day without a freakout (I wasn't looking to fix general behaviours but the crazy out of control freakouts), he'd get a sticker. For every weekend day, we'd evaluate after quiet time and at bed time so he could get two stickers.

Full row of stickers, a trip to the "treat store" to pick out anything he wanted.

Full chart, trip to bookstore to pick out anything he wanted.

It mostly did what I needed it to do, it refocused him for that week and we were able to calm down enough to get him back in control of himself and through those rough first weeks of school.

Then it became a fight. arguing for stickers, etc.

And then mommy in a fit of rage one day (when dealing with the extra crazy 5 year old behaviour) ripped up the good behaviour chart.

Then mommy had to create two new charts, one for Charlie and one for mommy.

It kind of fizzled out after that (when the freakouts ended anyway).

So, that's my long story with little point.

Juni · Guru

Sonya wrote:

we tried and while it gave us a good week, it wasn't sustainable.

when we started school, charlie was a total nutcase. Absolutely out of control.

Josie, who had been a bit of trouble in the summer, watched in horror and behaved beautifully.

after a particularly horrid day, we started a sticker chart.

I did two pieces of construction paper, drew 6 column grid on each and explained that for every school day without a freakout (I wasn't looking to fix general behaviours but the crazy out of control freakouts), he'd get a sticker. For every weekend day, we'd evaluate after quiet time and at bed time so he could get two stickers.

Full row of stickers, a trip to the "treat store" to pick out anything he wanted.

Full chart, trip to bookstore to pick out anything he wanted.

It mostly did what I needed it to do, it refocused him for that week and we were able to calm down enough to get him back in control of himself and through those rough first weeks of school.

Then it became a fight. arguing for stickers, etc.

And then mommy in a fit of rage one day (when dealing with the extra crazy 5 year old behaviour) ripped up the good behaviour chart.

Then mommy had to create two new charts, one for Charlie and one for mommy.

It kind of fizzled out after that (when the freakouts ended anyway).

So, that's my long story with little point.

Oh Sonya, I love you.

Erin · Guru

This mommy isnt so good at them either. For two reasons. Im a sucker for getting the kids little stuff all the time anyway, fro yo, little toys, puzzles, books, etc. And my kids dont really covet big items or have any concept of money. Second, Im usually too harried or impatient to deal with the chart. So, mommy forgets or says, dont worry about it. Which of course, defeats the purpose. But, I think that just seeing the magnets or stickers on the board helps kiera refocus, much the same way it does for Charlie when things get really bad.

Cuppycake · Guru

We had one on the back of our dining room door for forever for Hannah, and it worked well for a long time.

At the time she was really into Care Bears (especially the Big Wish movie), so I took a picture of one of had Joe blow it up so it was massive, and colored it in. All the things we wanted her to do where on invidual stars that she got to put up on the board with velcro dots when she did them without giving us trouble. (brushing her teeth, getting dressed, trying food at meals, sleeping in her own bed, etc.) That alone worked for a long time. She liked to see the board all full. When that stopped working (which was when Supa introduced the behavior jar, which in itself is a fantastic idea), when she filled the board, she got a paper clip in her jar. When she got to a certain level, she could pick a treat or save to the full line and buy a toy. I was really obsessed with her chart though, and only recently took it down, lmao.

Now she gets money in her jar (which I know not everyone agrees with) and she can go to the store whenever she wants to cash it in. Makes it easier for me to stop getting "Just because" toys, because she has to save up for the things she wants unless it's a holiday or birthday.

Cuppycake · Guru

Sonya, you're amazing. You make me laugh hysterically.

Supafly · Guru

Like Leah said, we do the behavior jar-we have been doing it for a long time now. I have tried charts and such, but they just didn't work well for us (though I think they might now-but the girls like their jars).

What they earn beans (we used beans-but I think we might switch to something else soon-just to switch it up a bit and fill the jars faster) has changed over time as the expectations have grown, and they lose more beans for things they know not to do-but the concept has stayed the same since we started it. It used to be earning a bean for getting yourself dressed, but now that is just expected, but they earn beans for giving each other unsolicitated pats on the back or sharing well and such like that.

When they fill their jars, they get a reward. Anna usually picks going to the Disney store, and Kate depends. Once she asked for us to take her to the aquarium, and we all had a lot of fun, another time it was BAB.

It really helps me get whatever it is I want them to start doing to become regular habits.

Lucy · Senior Member

We made our own with construction paper. I looked at the Melissa and Doug one but it didn't have the things I wanted it to have on it. If you want them to do chores I'm sure it would work better but for Joe it was certain behaviours I wanted to encourage. So his chart had things like 'eat dinner with good manners' and 'get dressed all by himself' and 'stayed in own bed all night'. At the end of the day we would go over what had happened that day and I would put a star on the one's he had accomplished. Then on saturday morning he would cash in his stars for 10 cents per star. I like this option because we use the same chart for a couple weeks then when I think he needs to work on something different I just make a new one.