a friend of mine who was a very good friend in college and immediately after is getting married. prior to me becoming pregnant with connor we went out at minimum once a week. i was the first of most of the girls i went to college with to get married/have kids, so of course, many of them have been living a sex in the city lifestyle for the past few years while i have been living a soccer in the suburbs life;)
so, now this one girl is getting married. i get the save the date and shortly after i get the bridal shower invitation. last week i went on the computer to rsvp for the shower (which is this coming sunday) and happened to pull up facebook before i responded. the newest post happened to be the bride saying how excited she was for her big bachelorette party in a few days (this past weekend). so, i said to dave..."that's weird...i got invited to the shower, but not the bachelorette." he said to him that basically says "you are good enough to buy me a gift, but not good enough to hang out with."
i ended up rsvp'ing no to the shower. petty, perhaps, but i was really bothered that i had not been invited to the bachelorette. 99% of the girls who went were mutual friends (in our sorority) but they are all childless and most aren't married. i don't know if people without kids just assume the mom wouldn't want to go out anymore or what, but it is really aggravating me and now i am hesitant to go to the wedding.
Hmmmm...that is weird. I am sure it would bother me. I mean, my little's little (sorority) got married recently, and I was invited to the shower/bachelorette party only, but not the wedding. We have stayed in touch, but not real close, and I didn't expect to be invited to the wedding, but I felt like the invite to the shower/bachelorette party (same day events) was...like a ploy for a gift. I didn't go-mostly because I had just gotten out of the hospital, but it would have felt weird for me to go anyway.
but it sounds like you were much closer to this girl, and given that, it seems weird that she wouldn't include you. Like you aren't fun anymore? Or maybe since you had a baby recently you wouldn't want to go? IDK-but regardless, i would think you would be invited and it would be left up to you whether or not you wanted to go.
I would still go to the wedding, at least if it were local and I didn't have to fork out a ton of cash on it. But it would definitely bother me not to have been included.
I don't know, that is tough. I think it's so silly for people to assume that someone wouldn't want to go if they have kids. What's wrong with an invitation? That is really weird.
Although Laura - I think it is way weirder to be invited to the bachelorette party and shower and not the wedding. WTH?
Corey - I would have felt the same way. I don't know what I would have done in the situation.
I don't know, that is tough. I think it's so silly for people to assume that someone wouldn't want to go if they have kids. What's wrong with an invitation? That is really weird.
Although Laura - I think it is way weirder to be invited to the bachelorette party and shower and not the wedding. WTH?
Corey - I would have felt the same way. I don't know what I would have done in the situation.
I know, right?? I thought it was really odd-and I felt like it was worse to have been invited to those events and not the wedding than nothing at all.
funny you said it was your little's little, laura.
the bride is my little, but i wasn't sure how many people would know wtf a little was:)
lmao.
Well then, that is even worse!! I sang at my little's wedding. I wasn't invited to the bachelorette party, but we didn't live in the same state, so it wasn't expected.
I don't know, that is tough. I think it's so silly for people to assume that someone wouldn't want to go if they have kids. What's wrong with an invitation? That is really weird.
Although Laura - I think it is way weirder to be invited to the bachelorette party and shower and not the wedding. WTH?
Corey - I would have felt the same way. I don't know what I would have done in the situation.
My thoughts exactly.
I would have been annoyed and hurt, especially if we were good friends and all our others friends had been invited.
Yes, it would bother me. Not being invited sucks, regardless of reason.
Was the same person responsible for planning the bachelorette as hosting the shower? I'm just wondering if there's any way the bachelorette list got bungled up somehow...
And I agree with the comments that getting invited to a bachelorette/shower but not the wedding is weirder. (Although not the bachelorette, because the etiquette is a little murky on that... but def the shower, where it is clearly not.)
That said, I had to laugh when I saw your anti-food porn status on FB yesterday. Maybe they were planning on something naughty in the kitchen. :D
