what is the one thing that you want her to know or what advice would you absolutely want her to follow?
mine is probably obvious, but i do not want her to be a teen mom. it is so difficult and really the odds are against you in so many ways. i pray that she has goals and does not think that everything will be "easy". I hope that she values hard work and education and finds someone that she loves and is happy with. I am so glad that i have don and that she will have him as an example of what a husband is/does. he is such a good father and husband
i want her to find value within herself and not have to be dependent on others for affirmation.
i grew up extremely insecure and even to this day (to some degree) i need affirmation from others. i think it's a terrible way to live your life and makes you too vulnerable to the people who seem to care about you.
i want her to independent. my niece just decided to move out of state...she has a long term boyfriend here who doesn't want to move, so she is moving without him. i never would have been independent enough to leave a boyfriend behind to do something like that, but i hope grace is.
i want her to find value within herself and not have to be dependent on others for affirmation.
i grew up extremely insecure and even to this day (to some degree) i need affirmation from others. i think it's a terrible way to live your life and makes you too vulnerable to the people who seem to care about you.
i wasn't sure how to answer this question but i think april pretty much nailed it. this is exactly what i want for caroline.
i want her to find value within herself and not have to be dependent on others for affirmation.
i grew up extremely insecure and even to this day (to some degree) i need affirmation from others. i think it's a terrible way to live your life and makes you too vulnerable to the people who seem to care about you.
i want her to find value within herself and not have to be dependent on others for affirmation.
i grew up extremely insecure and even to this day (to some degree) i need affirmation from others. i think it's a terrible way to live your life and makes you too vulnerable to the people who seem to care about you.
Very well said, April. This is basically what I want for my girls as well. I want them to value, love and believe in themselves, and have the faith and confidence in themselves to make their own choices and stand up for what they believe.
what is the one thing that you want her to know or what advice would you absolutely want her to follow?
mine is probably obvious, but i do not want her to be a teen mom. it is so difficult and really the odds are against you in so many ways. i pray that she has goals and does not think that everything will be "easy". I hope that she values hard work and education and finds someone that she loves and is happy with. I am so glad that i have don and that she will have him as an example of what a husband is/does. he is such a good father and husband
What you said. I feel the same about my DS also. He knows of 8 girls(3 are 15) that are pregnant and I feel sorry for them. I'm tired of hearing myself say condoms to him.
I want them to believe in themselves and to fully know they're loved. That no matter what happens on this earth, the Lord will protect them and love them even more than we do. I want them to always stand firm in the faith, no matter what is thrown at them, and to never waiver.
I recently added this to my FB profile... sums this up better than I ever could.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Marianne Williamson
I recently added this to my FB profile... sums this up better than I ever could.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Marianne Williamson
I know marianne well. well, not that well, but do know her and her daughter, Emma. Interesting that this quote came up. I was just talking about them to someone the other day. The world is small.
I recently added this to my FB profile... sums this up better than I ever could.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Marianne Williamson
Actually, I am so freaked out that I'm having a girl...I can see 20 years of fights and problems ahead. I have my idea of what I want, but don't know how to make that happen. I had a horrible relationship with my mom, and I don't want to do that with my kids.
For example, with Andrew, I wanted him to know that I loved him. So, from the time he was born, I was telling the kid, 50+(seriously) times a day that I loved him... My therapist gently led me to where that prolly isn't nesassary... I take care of him, I hug and kiss him, I don't hit him or call him names, I don't make fun of him or put him down, I listen to him...She said that was showing him I loved him. What I was doing was setting him up for problems later in life. What happens when he's older and in a relationship? How many other people will tell him they love him 50 times a day? Then, he'll be in trouble...KWIM???
I feel like I've had really good examples of what not to do, but I don't know exactly how to be a great parent.
i don't have a daughter but i would love to in another life.
i would want my daughter to realize her worth isn't dependent on a precept set by society. i hope i can show her that being your own person is much more than being what others expect you to be. i want her to find confidence in the things she loves and feels good about, not in what others see of her.
of course, i'm not really sure how i'd go about doing any of that...but it's what i'd want her to know. :)
