actually, i guess the lush part isn't too accurate. ever since kevin moved out, i hardly drink at all. of course that's what happens when you're a single mom w/o a job :D
wow that's a lot of info in a short paragraph.
i'll give you a moment to soak all that in.
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yeah...so...i'm in the middle of a divorce. one of the hardest parts is done with - now it's just the paperwork crap. however THE most difficult part is ongoing; emma misses her dad something fierce. *sigh*
let's see....our marriage was never a walk in the park, as you have all witnessed at various times. last sept i decided to leave. last october kevin hacked my computer and found out i was talking to another man.
::pauses to allow for absorption::
he moved out in early december b/c he couldn't for the life of him stop calling me names and yelling at me in front of emma. the original plan was for him to stay through the holidays. didn't quite make it that far.
i made the right decision for myself and for my kids. i'm happier than i've been in a long while.
do y'all still do msbl? i could def. use something like that right about now.
umm yeah....i've always been an open book, so please feel free to ask me any questions - be as nosy as you want. i'm here to catch you all up to speed on my life and to say hi. miss you all.
You answered the only question I had - are you doing okay? You said you're happier than you've been and that is all I wanted to know. It's a weird thing to say I'm so happy for you in regards to a divorce because regardless of the circumstances, it has to be one of the hardest things to decide and to go through.
So, I'm happy you are happier. I'm sad that Emma misses her dad but she will have a better relationship with him if she doesn't see him yelling at you. I've missed you. We are doing MSBL. It's much more casual. I have no problem with you (or anybody else) joining - we are about 2 months into it. But I think you should come on over and start even though we've been doing it for a bit.
Wait...I do have one question. Are you still talking to the other guy? (And if so - is he a good guy?)
ETA: I'm not the boss of MSBL even though it sounds that way from what I said. ;) *I* don't mind you joining.
-- Edited by Juni on Thursday 11th of March 2010 04:00:11 PM
V-I am sorry about your divorce. Anyway you slice it, that just plain sucks to have to go through all of that. And I hate that Emma is missing her daddy. What kind of custody agreement are you two coming up with?
I am glad though to hear that you are happier than you have been in a long time. You DESERVE it! I hope your happiness keeps getting greater as you get past all of this.
How is Emma these days? What is she into? And how is little E? I bet he is getting big big big.
We have missed you.
And I recently dropped out of MSBL (health problems again for me-I am back on steroids right now), but I plan on jumping back in in a few months when I am off the steroids again. I am sure you would be welcomed with open arms!!!!
virgie, i am so sorry. it sounds like this is for the best, and i am so glad that you feel happier. i have missed you around here, and hope you start coming around again
-- Edited by crystal on Thursday 11th of March 2010 04:55:39 PM
Hey V- Its nice to "see" you again... Sorry to hear what you are going through, but it really sounds like you are making the best decision. Hope you pop in more often- I know you have been missed!
I'm sorry that you're going through a divorce but I'm glad you're happier.
I was JUST thinking about you yesterday because I saw your profile pic on FB, and I was thinking you looked really skinny and happy. (Don't know when it was taken??)
I'm sorry to hear you are going through all this right now. I can't imagine the slew of emotions that come along with it all. But sounds like you are making the right decision for you and for the kids. I hope you are doing well though and enjoying the relief that must come along with knowing you are out of a relationship that you were being mistreated.
I am curious to hear about this new guy...LOL How far does he live? How funny that you met him in Vegas. I hope you two can continue seeing each other and see where it goes. : )
sleeeeeeeeeew of emotions. i was JUST asking dorian how you're doing a couple of nights ago.
i miss you sooooooooo much and am so happy that you're happy. that is all i ever wanted for you. of course, i'm sorry about the divorce, but i'm happy for YOU.
i'm sorry that emma is having such a hard time. like the others have said, it's best for her not to see the drama between her parents, but i know that means NOTHING as you watch her suffer right now. i guess if you can, just keep that long term and big picture in mind.
i love you tons and tons and am always here for you if you need anything.
i hope you're going to check in more often. i don't ever see/hear from you on fb and it hurts my heart to not know how you're doing.
-- Edited by apies on Thursday 11th of March 2010 06:01:16 PM
i am sorry are going through divorce but i am also glad you are happy!!
i hate to hear all that emma is dealing with. if it helps you to cope thinking about her feelings any i was exactly her age when my mom and dad got divorced and the most thing i remember is those two always fighting! so i am so glad you guys seperated as that was starting to heighten.
little e is just a doll!
i am glad you have someone else to talk with and who makes you happy. hate the distance thing hopefully that can work itself out.
i hope you hang around and post more often.
-- Edited by Sara on Thursday 11th of March 2010 07:43:44 PM