Dominic has all the sudden developed anxiety whenever I leave him. He wants to go everywhere with me and on Sunday we dropped him off at my mother in laws who he loves staying with while we went to a friends to watch the Super Bowl and he was crying and all freaked out. He calmed down but still! Then yesterday when the bus picked him up he was ok and then I saw through the window he was crying. Today same thing, he was ok then as soon as he got on the bus he started crying and hanging on to me and the bar on the bus. I am not sure what is going on, I asked him did he not want to ride the bus anymore and he said "no, he wants me to take him". I thought he liked riding it so that is why I was letting him take it, I don't know if this is just a phase that is going to pass or if I should call the bus and tell them not to pick him up anymore and I will take him. It is making me very upset, I hate to see him like this and I thought we were way past this stage! Anybody else dealing with this?
Interesting Jasmine. My first thought is that something happened on the bus or at school one day that scared him.
Is anything new happening at home? It could be something as minor as a bad dream that stuck with him. I know Lauren woke up scared a few weeks ago and I slept with her that night and she stuck by my side for days and nights after that.
I also made the mistake of talking about an upcoming surgery I am having while she was in the room and now she doesn't want to leave my side.
I would talk to his teachers and see if anything new is happening in the classroom. Hopefully it is just a quick phase but I know how hard it is to see them upset like that. Big hugs to you!
-- Edited by Michele on Tuesday 9th of February 2010 11:32:16 PM
I'd say it is normal (likely). Charlie is much more aware lately of scary things. He's afraid of going to the living room if the hallway is dark. He is much more likely to be upset if I leave them at my mom's (at least initially). He was upset when I went away from work (Josie wouldn't even talk to me on the phone - not mad, just indifferent, lol). He often whines and cries when we leave him at daycare (and then begs to stay later in the day when we come to pick him up).
I think it is a new awareness of the situations they are in.
Or maybe Michele is right and something happened. :)
I'd say it is normal (likely). Charlie is much more aware lately of scary things. He's afraid of going to the living room if the hallway is dark. He is much more likely to be upset if I leave them at my mom's (at least initially). He was upset when I went away from work (Josie wouldn't even talk to me on the phone - not mad, just indifferent, lol). He often whines and cries when we leave him at daycare (and then begs to stay later in the day when we come to pick him up).
I think it is a new awareness of the situations they are in.
Or maybe Michele is right and something happened. :)
Sonya, I totally agree. They are developing a greater sense of awareness. I was just telling my DH the other day how Lauren seems to see and view things differently all of the sudden. It's so interesting to watch them change and grow. So maybe it's like a mental growth spurt and he is caught in the middle Jasmine. For peace of mind talk to the teachers and/bus driver and if all is well there than I say he seems fine.
How is everything else going with him? Is he sleeping better at night now? It's been forever since I have seen (and I def. could have missed) an update on his progress.
I agree with Michele and Sonya. He is able to think more deeply about things than he used to and sometimes it's still hard for them to separate reality from fantasy at this age. Keep talking to him and of course the other adults he sees. I don't think I would cancel the bus just yet. See what you find out first.
Sonya, I totally agree. They are developing a greater sense of awareness. I was just telling my DH the other day how Lauren seems to see and view things differently all of the sudden. It's so interesting to watch them change and grow. So maybe it's like a mental growth spurt and he is caught in the middle Jasmine. For peace of mind talk to the teachers and/bus driver and if all is well there than I say he seems fine.
How is everything else going with him? Is he sleeping better at night now? It's been forever since I have seen (and I def. could have missed) an update on his progress.
Thank you, I asked him if anything happened on the bus and he said "no, I just want to say bye to you and ask you a question" so I asked him if he would rather I take him and he said yes, so I will do that from now on, I am not going to make him ride the bus if he doesn't want to and I am home anyway so it is not a big deal for me to take him and pick him up. He is doing great! We just has his IEP meeting and his speech is above average, it is amazing because 2 years ago he was totally behind and not he is ahead. His speech teacher and regular teacher said they do not see any signs of autism in him at all so maybe when he has his re-evaluation in May of next year he might not fall on the spectrum anymore. He is also going to start kindergarten in a regular classroom, he will not need anything special or out of class, that makes me so happy! My biggest concern was him being mainstream by kindergarten. He has started falling asleep in his room because we changed bedrooms and the tv is in his room now but he crawls into our bed in the middle of the night but at least he is falling asleep in his own room.
Sonya, I totally agree. They are developing a greater sense of awareness. I was just telling my DH the other day how Lauren seems to see and view things differently all of the sudden. It's so interesting to watch them change and grow. So maybe it's like a mental growth spurt and he is caught in the middle Jasmine. For peace of mind talk to the teachers and/bus driver and if all is well there than I say he seems fine.
How is everything else going with him? Is he sleeping better at night now? It's been forever since I have seen (and I def. could have missed) an update on his progress.
Thank you, I asked him if anything happened on the bus and he said "no, I just want to say bye to you and ask you a question" so I asked him if he would rather I take him and he said yes, so I will do that from now on, I am not going to make him ride the bus if he doesn't want to and I am home anyway so it is not a big deal for me to take him and pick him up. He is doing great! We just has his IEP meeting and his speech is above average, it is amazing because 2 years ago he was totally behind and not he is ahead. His speech teacher and regular teacher said they do not see any signs of autism in him at all so maybe when he has his re-evaluation in May of next year he might not fall on the spectrum anymore. He is also going to start kindergarten in a regular classroom, he will not need anything special or out of class, that makes me so happy! My biggest concern was him being mainstream by kindergarten. He has started falling asleep in his room because we changed bedrooms and the tv is in his room now but he crawls into our bed in the middle of the night but at least he is falling asleep in his own room.
this is an absolutely amazing update. wow. you must be so thrilled.
Thank you, I asked him if anything happened on the bus and he said "no, I just want to say bye to you and ask you a question" so I asked him if he would rather I take him and he said yes, so I will do that from now on, I am not going to make him ride the bus if he doesn't want to and I am home anyway so it is not a big deal for me to take him and pick him up. He is doing great! We just has his IEP meeting and his speech is above average, it is amazing because 2 years ago he was totally behind and not he is ahead. His speech teacher and regular teacher said they do not see any signs of autism in him at all so maybe when he has his re-evaluation in May of next year he might not fall on the spectrum anymore. He is also going to start kindergarten in a regular classroom, he will not need anything special or out of class, that makes me so happy! My biggest concern was him being mainstream by kindergarten. He has started falling asleep in his room because we changed bedrooms and the tv is in his room now but he crawls into our bed in the middle of the night but at least he is falling asleep in his own room.
this is an absolutely amazing update. wow. you must be so thrilled.
I am so proud of him, he has made SO much progress in the last 2 years.
Andrew has also been very clingy lately. Especially about going to PS. I'm not sure why. I thought maybe because I'm pregnant. He's been doing some baby talk this past week or two, like "me want milk". I think he's way too old to be doing that. Maybe it's a 4 1/2 year old stage. He is also coming in our room at night to finish sleeping. Are the 2 of them plotting on the phone together??? LOL!
