Monday Chat

Juanita · Guru

RE: Monday Chat

CheleLyn · Senior Member

I forgot what I was going to say! I got distracted by Daniel...and trying to get my etsy things listed and totally forgot!

Maybe multitasking isn't in the cards for me today

happylib · Guru

Juanita wrote:

Thanks everyone.

I haven't shared it with many people. I finally told my mom 2 days ago, after her asking a gazillion times what's wrong with me/us.

I honestly think Kenneth and I have focused so much on the kids the past 7 years, we've lost each other, and I'm just not happy. Period.

I told him we needed to do a lot of soul searching and work to make this work, because I didn't want to be one of those couples who are married 20 years and then divorce when the kids are gone because we don't know each other or like each other anymore, kwim?

I just need a break..some girl time. I never do ANYTHING. WE never do anything as a couple. It's just kids, kids, kids. Which is great for them, but not so much for us.

Jenn, I don't want to sound preachy or bombard you with advice. But I do want to share with you. Robert and I went to a marriage workshop at our church called "10 Great Date Nights". It has been really helpful for us in dealing with the bumps in our relationship and it does address some of what you mentioned. There are also books, but if you can find a workshop, it is totally worth your time. It's not rocket science, but it helps put things in perspective. Here's a link:

http://www.marriagealive.com/index.cfm

Sonya · Guru

Oh, huge hugs, Jen.

I know that when I stopped traveling every week it was HARD! we were both used to me being on the road 3 weeks a month and that is how we built our routines.

it took a long time for us to get used to it and work it out.

You are strong and you are aware that there is an issue and you will work it out.

And we are here for you during this time.

Picture-Perfect · Guru

Juanita wrote:

Picture-Perfect wrote:

Juanita wrote:

Thanks everyone.

I haven't shared it with many people. I finally told my mom 2 days ago, after her asking a gazillion times what's wrong with me/us.

I honestly think Kenneth and I have focused so much on the kids the past 7 years, we've lost each other, and I'm just not happy. Period.

I told him we needed to do a lot of soul searching and work to make this work, because I didn't want to be one of those couples who are married 20 years and then divorce when the kids are gone because we don't know each other or like each other anymore, kwim?

I just need a break..some girl time. I never do ANYTHING. WE never do anything as a couple. It's just kids, kids, kids. Which is great for them, but not so much for us.

It's so hard to remember that before we had kids we were just people and just a couple. Everything in our world revolves around the children too. They are amazing and such a gift but it's so easy to lose yourself and each other. Do you have any options for someone who can watch them so you and Kenneth could have a reconnection trip? I know when K and I go to even just dinner the rejuvenation is pretty amazing. Could you get some alone time for you too? I don't know where your family is in relation to you. I'm sorry you guys are going through this Jenn, it's really an awful feeling. I hope you guys can work through it without too much difficulty. I'll be thinking about you and praying.

We could Amber, we just DON'T, that's part of the problem

Another thing that scares me, is that he's been home this past year more than he has our entire marriage, because his work has been slow. And it scares me that we can't get along when we're around each other a lot.

Are you guys talking about it at all Jenn? Maybe you need to both have a lay it all out there talk and go from there. Is something bothering him? Has this been going on for a while? It's just so hard, my heart hurts that your hurting. I'm sure you've been praying. I hope you can find some middle ground and start working it out.

Sonya · Guru

i'm home with the kids now.

Josie puked all over her lunch and when I got there to pick her up, was asleep in her teacher's arms. :(

she was fine this morning but her teacher said she was kind of all all morning at daycare.

i brought charlie home too since it is easier to have him here to entertain her. I'm hoping they will both nap so i can keep working. i really don't want to take time off. I'll have to be home again tomorrow as she can't go back until wed at the earliest.

Picture-Perfect · Guru

Sonya wrote:

i'm home with the kids now.

Josie puked all over her lunch and when I got there to pick her up, was asleep in her teacher's arms. :(

she was fine this morning but her teacher said she was kind of all all morning at daycare.

i brought charlie home too since it is easier to have him here to entertain her. I'm hoping they will both nap so i can keep working. i really don't want to take time off. I'll have to be home again tomorrow as she can't go back until wed at the earliest.

Sounds like the bug thats going around here Sonya. Both my kiddo's had it about 10 days ago. It was definitely mild compared to some cases that are going around but it is still NO fun. I really hope she feels better quick.

Juanita · Guru

happylib wrote:

Juanita wrote:

Thanks everyone.

I haven't shared it with many people. I finally told my mom 2 days ago, after her asking a gazillion times what's wrong with me/us.

I honestly think Kenneth and I have focused so much on the kids the past 7 years, we've lost each other, and I'm just not happy. Period.

I told him we needed to do a lot of soul searching and work to make this work, because I didn't want to be one of those couples who are married 20 years and then divorce when the kids are gone because we don't know each other or like each other anymore, kwim?

I just need a break..some girl time. I never do ANYTHING. WE never do anything as a couple. It's just kids, kids, kids. Which is great for them, but not so much for us.

Jenn, I don't want to sound preachy or bombard you with advice. But I do want to share with you. Robert and I went to a marriage workshop at our church called "10 Great Date Nights". It has been really helpful for us in dealing with the bumps in our relationship and it does address some of what you mentioned. There are also books, but if you can find a workshop, it is totally worth your time. It's not rocket science, but it helps put things in perspective. Here's a link:

http://www.marriagealive.com/index.cfm

Thanks Libby

Juanita · Guru

Sonya wrote:

i'm home with the kids now.

Josie puked all over her lunch and when I got there to pick her up, was asleep in her teacher's arms. :(

she was fine this morning but her teacher said she was kind of all all morning at daycare.

i brought charlie home too since it is easier to have him here to entertain her. I'm hoping they will both nap so i can keep working. i really don't want to take time off. I'll have to be home again tomorrow as she can't go back until wed at the earliest.

ugh! sorry

Juanita · Guru

Amber we have talked about it, and he knows there's a problem, and yes, it's been going on for awhile

Picture-Perfect · Guru

Juanita wrote:

Amber we have talked about it, and he knows there's a problem, and yes, it's been going on for awhile

Ok Jenn. I'll be praying and I hope you guys will be ok.

happylib · Guru

Sonya I hope Jo feels better soon and Charlie is being helpful and entertaining her.

Amber I sure hope you all are done with all the viruses and other ickies. You have had more than your share this year.

Jenn, any field trips with Presley coming up?

Juanita · Guru

happylib wrote:

Sonya I hope Jo feels better soon and Charlie is being helpful and entertaining her.

Amber I sure hope you all are done with all the viruses and other ickies. You have had more than your share this year.

Jenn, any field trips with Presley coming up?

not that I know of

Juanita · Guru

Picture-Perfect wrote:

Juanita wrote:

Amber we have talked about it, and he knows there's a problem, and yes, it's been going on for awhile

Ok Jenn. I'll be praying and I hope you guys will be ok.

thanks!!

3s_a_crowd · Guru

Jen Ill be praying for you.

Raymonds Early intervention therapists get here in an hour. I hope I like them.
I think im making dh take kaylen to the park or out to ride her bike while they are here.

Juanita · Guru

3s_a_crowd wrote:

Jen Ill be praying for you.

Raymonds Early intervention therapists get here in an hour. I hope I like them.
I think im making dh take kaylen to the park or out to ride her bike while they are here.

Thanks girl!

I hope you like them too

happylib · Guru

3s_a_crowd wrote:

Jen Ill be praying for you.

Raymonds Early intervention therapists get here in an hour. I hope I like them.
I think im making dh take kaylen to the park or out to ride her bike while they are here.

I hope it all goes well. If you have questions there are lots of us on here that can help you out. I am guessing you it will be a good experience.

happylib · Guru

I have been watching the orlando weather. I am so hoping it is not cold when we get there. From the looks of things it will be cool. I think in the low 70's for highs. Still, it's much warmer than here. I guess I should go through E's clothes and see if any of her warmer weather clothes fit.

Anyone else have something they are looking forward to?

Sara · Guru

SOnya, hope Charlie does not get the sickies as well.

Jen, I will keep you in my prayers.

CheleLyn · Senior Member

so i went to get my brows done today....i cant believe i got burned AGAIN! As soon as the wax touched me I knew. She didn't even apologize. I think it's time to find a new salon for my waxing....she does my nails fabulously but burning me twice is just too much. evileye

Then I went to tan. Im in the bed and realizing, damn its hotter than usual in here. The fans didnt even seem to be helping. I got done and told the girl at the desk that they might want to check the fans on that bed because they didnt seem to be cooling as well....no, turns out they changed the bulbs in the beds so I went full time on new bulbs---which I NEVER do, I always take 5 minutes less on new bulbs. Needless to say, my neck and butt are very pink...YIKES. evileye

Is it too much to ask? really?