Monday Chat

sappy · Guru

RE: Monday Chat

sappy · Guru

my kids are all home today too. i'm taking the 3 little ones to the oncologist so mikey can get his blood counts checked. hopefully it will be a short visit. i was going to bring jake with me to help but his buddies are all getting together this afternoon so i said he could go with them instead - it is a break from school after all.

Cuppycake · Guru

Juanita wrote:

Good morning!

Nothing much going on today. Kenneth comes home after being gone for 2 weeks, and will leave again Wednesday morning.

I'm okay with it..we've been having some problems and have a lot of work to do, so just keep us in your p&pt please.

Ifer, you are both in my thoughts and prayers.

CheleLyn · Senior Member

sappy wrote:

chele - that's super creepy.

IDK what it is about my ex boyfriends.

One from when I was 17 sent me a message last summer....just a "hi, how've you been, hope you're happy" kind of message. I responded saying "alls good, hope you're well, etc". Didn't give it another thought.

His wife then sent me a message telling me she knows who i am and that he has never let go completely, and to never communicate with him again.

I said, "no worries, hope everything woks out for you guys". Then she FREAKED OUT on me! sent me emails about how he always compares her to me, how she can never live up to me, that I have been the 3rd person in their marriage all these years.

I was so bizarre. I apologized to her (even tho I had nothing to apologize for). SHe kept sending me emails and I kept telling her to stop emailing me. She said in one of them that she knows my 20 yr HS reunion is coming up (his brother was in my class) and she'll be damned if he goes and sees me. I was like...WTF! STOP EMAILING ME!

I havent heard from her since

supergrover · Guru

Jenn, I was going to right my thoughts are with you. I changed and just said a prayer for you an Kenneth instead. :)

Sonya · Guru

CheleLyn wrote:

An old boyfriend from 23 years ago (yes 23 years ago...I was 14, he was 17) located me on FB.
After I broke up with him, he showed up at my foster home with a gun threatening to kill the foster parents if they didn't let him see me....me and the other guy that lived there were hiding in an upstairs closet and called the police. He left before the police got there then disappeared for a week. When he came back, his probation officer and my therapist and his mother and a cop showed up at school and we all had a meeting. By the end of the week I was moved to a different foster home in a city 45 minutes away. I couldn't go to school for almost a month bc he was stalking me. When I finally did go to school, my foster dad or one of his police friends would escort me to and from school for the next 3 months....I culdn't even hang out with the new friends I was making bc he would show up....which as you can imagine can only make you a FREAK! I finally got some freedom in the last month of the school year.

Thank goodness for "block". What worries me though is that when he decided he liked me back then, he found out all kinds of info about me (DOB, where I was born, the fact i had been in foster homes before, where my father lived...he admitted to following me home and sitting at the school yard across from where I was living for weeks before actually talking to me).

It's crazy.

omg how scary.

I had/have a nowhere-near-this-serious "stalker" - a guy I never dated but who could never take the not so subtle hint. He's even told people that we dated.

I had to change my email address when i was at school and i've blocked him numerous times from IM, email, FB.

It's been over 20 year for god sake!

I don't think my guy is dangerous but it is still super creepy.

I hope this is the last you ever hear from this guy.

Cuppycake · Guru

Good morning, ladies.

My sister came over last night and took Hannah to my mom's for the night when she left. I stayed up way too late cleaning our bedroom, but it needed it - it was the most stressful room to step into, despite the fact that it is where we need to relax. It's not quite done, but it's more manageable.

I should be getting a few other things done, but instead I'm being super lazy and watching trashy tv. But, I just remembered that some girlfriends are coming over tonight for The Bachelor, so I'll have to get my stuff done at some point.

CheleLyn · Senior Member

Sonya wrote:

CheleLyn wrote:

An old boyfriend from 23 years ago (yes 23 years ago...I was 14, he was 17) located me on FB.
After I broke up with him, he showed up at my foster home with a gun threatening to kill the foster parents if they didn't let him see me....me and the other guy that lived there were hiding in an upstairs closet and called the police. He left before the police got there then disappeared for a week. When he came back, his probation officer and my therapist and his mother and a cop showed up at school and we all had a meeting. By the end of the week I was moved to a different foster home in a city 45 minutes away. I couldn't go to school for almost a month bc he was stalking me. When I finally did go to school, my foster dad or one of his police friends would escort me to and from school for the next 3 months....I culdn't even hang out with the new friends I was making bc he would show up....which as you can imagine can only make you a FREAK! I finally got some freedom in the last month of the school year.

Thank goodness for "block". What worries me though is that when he decided he liked me back then, he found out all kinds of info about me (DOB, where I was born, the fact i had been in foster homes before, where my father lived...he admitted to following me home and sitting at the school yard across from where I was living for weeks before actually talking to me).

It's crazy.

omg how scary.

I had/have a nowhere-near-this-serious "stalker" - a guy I never dated but who could never take the not so subtle hint. He's even told people that we dated.

I had to change my email address when i was at school and i've blocked him numerous times from IM, email, FB.

It's been over 20 year for god sake!

I don't think my guy is dangerous but it is still super creepy.

I hope this is the last you ever hear from this guy.

I hope so. I have enough going on. I called one of my other FB about it...she knows him and lives near him. SHe's all freaking out...it disturbs me, but she was like "omg it's happening again isn't it" I said, I dont think it will be as bad as it was back then...I live in texas and he's still in MI.

I'd like to think he grew up and became a responisble person....outgrew his psycho-freak stage.

CheleLyn · Senior Member

JENN...

I really hope everything work out good. {{{{{{hugs}}}}}

Sara · Guru

jen, hugs i am sure things will be fine between you and kenneth.

chuggington is the show...it is about to start...lol

i am just trying to take it easy, hard for me to do that but i am working on it.

john is off today, bryce had a make up day due to snow day the other week.

CheleLyn · Senior Member

i wish my laundry could do itself.

i'm totally stalling getting my things done.

i also need to go get my brows waxed. I hate doing it, but they look so good after. The stupid woman burned my eyelid once though so i dont let her do it any more.

i would rather wax than pluck though. waxing hurt but its over quickly...plucking is repeated "ouch. ouch. ouch. ouch" thats even less fun than waxing.

happylib · Guru

Good morning!

We came back from our whirlwind trip to Cincinnati around midnight last night. E is still sleeping confuse

but I think she needs it. We all have colds it seems. I am hoping that we have it out of our systems by another week. We leave for our disney world trip a week from tomorrow. I am so not ready.

I haven't been on for a couple of days. Has anyone had any babies or any other exciting news?

CheleLyn · Senior Member

i have a goal for this year.

I'm going to get a pedicure.

I have serious issues with people touching my feet though. Not in a ticklish way....it's just one of those things from my past I'm trying to work through.

I hate doing my own pedis.

I'm hoping to get the courage up to do it by the time its warm enough to wear flip-flops.

CheleLyn · Senior Member

I have two items to list on etsy today....a 4pc doily coaster set, and a maroon colored afghan/throw.

It's frustrating listing things and nothing being bought.

I have two events coming up that I need gifts for. I'm thinking of pulling from my etsy things, but then I wonder if someone would want it after i've removed them.

CheleLyn · Senior Member

MIL wanted some pinwheel style doilies and a doily for her coffee table so I made them for her.

You know what? she put them in a damn box and doesnt even use them!

She wanted a dishcloth set before that so I made her some with some little "sponges"....she wont use them---says she doesnt want to ruin them.

I do NOT like making thengs for people then they not use them. It makes me insecure about what I make, kwim.

MIL does use the afghan, shawl, and scarf I made for her though

CheleLyn · Senior Member

I'm chatty this morning. biggrin

Juanita · Guru

Thanks everyone.

I haven't shared it with many people. I finally told my mom 2 days ago, after her asking a gazillion times what's wrong with me/us.

I honestly think Kenneth and I have focused so much on the kids the past 7 years, we've lost each other, and I'm just not happy. Period.

I told him we needed to do a lot of soul searching and work to make this work, because I didn't want to be one of those couples who are married 20 years and then divorce when the kids are gone because we don't know each other or like each other anymore, kwim?

I just need a break..some girl time. I never do ANYTHING. WE never do anything as a couple. It's just kids, kids, kids. Which is great for them, but not so much for us.

Picture-Perfect · Guru

Juanita wrote:

Thanks everyone.

I haven't shared it with many people. I finally told my mom 2 days ago, after her asking a gazillion times what's wrong with me/us.

I honestly think Kenneth and I have focused so much on the kids the past 7 years, we've lost each other, and I'm just not happy. Period.

I told him we needed to do a lot of soul searching and work to make this work, because I didn't want to be one of those couples who are married 20 years and then divorce when the kids are gone because we don't know each other or like each other anymore, kwim?

I just need a break..some girl time. I never do ANYTHING. WE never do anything as a couple. It's just kids, kids, kids. Which is great for them, but not so much for us.

It's so hard to remember that before we had kids we were just people and just a couple. Everything in our world revolves around the children too. They are amazing and such a gift but it's so easy to lose yourself and each other. Do you have any options for someone who can watch them so you and Kenneth could have a reconnection trip? I know when K and I go to even just dinner the rejuvenation is pretty amazing. Could you get some alone time for you too? I don't know where your family is in relation to you. I'm sorry you guys are going through this Jenn, it's really an awful feeling. I hope you guys can work through it without too much difficulty. I'll be thinking about you and praying.

CheleLyn · Senior Member

Juanita wrote:

Thanks everyone.

I haven't shared it with many people. I finally told my mom 2 days ago, after her asking a gazillion times what's wrong with me/us.

I honestly think Kenneth and I have focused so much on the kids the past 7 years, we've lost each other, and I'm just not happy. Period.

I told him we needed to do a lot of soul searching and work to make this work, because I didn't want to be one of those couples who are married 20 years and then divorce when the kids are gone because we don't know each other or like each other anymore, kwim?

I just need a break..some girl time. I never do ANYTHING. WE never do anything as a couple. It's just kids, kids, kids. Which is great for them, but not so much for us.

It's so easy to say "I totally understand" but at the same time, it sounds so trite.

I don't have any advice for you, only the best wishes for you. You're a fabulous mother, wife, woman. And you're so incredibly strong...if anyone can put everything into making their marriage work, I know it's you. Your personal strength, your faith in God and your ability to follow HIS will, will make things right.

{{{hugs}}}

-- Edited by CheleLyn on Monday 18th of January 2010 10:07:34 AM

Juanita · Guru

Picture-Perfect wrote:

Juanita wrote:

Thanks everyone.

I haven't shared it with many people. I finally told my mom 2 days ago, after her asking a gazillion times what's wrong with me/us.

I honestly think Kenneth and I have focused so much on the kids the past 7 years, we've lost each other, and I'm just not happy. Period.

I told him we needed to do a lot of soul searching and work to make this work, because I didn't want to be one of those couples who are married 20 years and then divorce when the kids are gone because we don't know each other or like each other anymore, kwim?

I just need a break..some girl time. I never do ANYTHING. WE never do anything as a couple. It's just kids, kids, kids. Which is great for them, but not so much for us.

It's so hard to remember that before we had kids we were just people and just a couple. Everything in our world revolves around the children too. They are amazing and such a gift but it's so easy to lose yourself and each other. Do you have any options for someone who can watch them so you and Kenneth could have a reconnection trip? I know when K and I go to even just dinner the rejuvenation is pretty amazing. Could you get some alone time for you too? I don't know where your family is in relation to you. I'm sorry you guys are going through this Jenn, it's really an awful feeling. I hope you guys can work through it without too much difficulty. I'll be thinking about you and praying.

We could Amber, we just DON'T, that's part of the problem cry

Another thing that scares me, is that he's been home this past year more than he has our entire marriage, because his work has been slow. And it scares me that we can't get along when we're around each other a lot.