that is INSANE!  it is a public school, right?  i could see if it were a private school and they can have whatever rules they want about appearance, but that seems totally crazy to me that a public school could require his hair to be a certain way or he is suspended.

okay, seriously that's insane!

his hair isn't long at all to me!!  even the longest part isn't down in his eyes or anything..

i don't get it

What I find more issue with is the fact they suspended a 4 year old. I mean could this kid not have stayed in school while the parents worked with the school? To keep a kid out of school over this? I find both parties at fault. Does a 4 year old boy really request long hair or is it the parents who want it? So, while they are dealing with the school or courts, let the poor little boy go to school. I think the parents should pull the hair back while this is an issue and let him go to school. I think there is fault on both sides.

The school can have a dress code and appearance can be one of them. They cannot make him cut his hair, but can request it is pulled back.

I think the whole thing is insane and even more that this is even news.

Alicia wrote:

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Stephen had long hair until he asked for it to be cut which was around 4. A lot of people thought he was a girl so I'm sure that has something to do with him wanting it cut. I think kids this age can/do say what they want to do with their hair. Same thing could be said with girls. A lot of little girls have long hair because that is what their mom wants.

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sure, that was not really the point though. I was just saying that the kid is suffering by missing school over something that really is all about the adults. I have no issue with long hair. I just have issue on how the child is being handled in this matter. It as if the adults lost sight of what is most important here.

I do think this is silly (and that his hair isn't that long) but I do think the school is allowed to make rules like that... Luc is in a public school and they have a dress code and he has to wear a uniform. They also have rules about hair. Boys hair is not supposed to touch the shirt collar. I don't know if boys can wear pony tails or not but I know distracting colors and mohawks are not allowed.

I do think 4 year olds can care about hair already. Luc's hair was getting long (it's curly) and I took him to get a haircut because his hair was starting to get unmanagable and always looked like we weren't brushing it. He was fine with the haircut until he saw it in the mirror and he was VERY upset with me and said that I made him bald. I just had his hair cut short and there were no longer any curls. I love his curls but figured the shorter his hair was the longer he could go between haircuts.

Anyway, with all that being said the Mom in the video was irking me. I think it is hurting her son MORE to be sitting alone with a teacher all day than to keep his hair long. If you don't want to abide by public school rules than pay for a school that doesn't have a strict code.

I can't seem to watch the video! I searched for it, but it didn't come up. IDK why.

Anyway, I am not a fan of long hair on boys (or Bill, who is currently driving me crazy with longer than usual hair, but I digress...), but I still don't think suspension for a 4 year old is the right course of action. Schools do have a right to have and enforce dress codes (IDK why hair length should play in, honestly. Colors and such, I can see, but length? That seems silly), and parents have the responsibility of adhering to those rules, so it seems the parents are digging their heels in? (not sure since I didn't see it), which isn't wise either.

Regardless, the child isn't doing something dangerous to other children-I can't believe they can't find some way of dealing with the situation that doesn't involve the poor child being kept out of school.