telling your kids santas not real.

Sara · Guru

RE: telling your kids santas not real.

Juanita · Guru

I don't plan on telling them until they figure it out on their own. If there comes a day when they do what K did, I'll just try and explain the difference to them without telling them Santa isn't real.

Alicia · Senior Member

Stephen never believed in santa which was fine with me. I remember not getting anything for christmas and wondering why santa didn't bring me anything. My older sister told me he wasn't real and that it was up to our parents to provide christmas. Knowing that made me feel better.

Raven believes. She is in love with christmas. Not just gifts but everything that goes along with it(except the religious parts). I willing to follow her lead but I can only go so far. I can't tell her he is real if she ask.

CoffeeQueen · Guru

Alicia wrote:

Stephen never believed in santa which was fine with me. I remember not getting anything for christmas and wondering why santa didn't bring me anything. My older sister told me he wasn't real and that it was up to our parents to provide christmas. Knowing that made me feel better.

Raven believes. She is in love with christmas. Not just gifts but everything that goes along with it(except the religious parts). I willing to follow her lead but I can only go so far. I can't tell her he is real if she ask.

Just being curious. Why can you not say he is real? You are Santa to her and you are very real.

Alicia · Senior Member

CoffeeQueen wrote:

Alicia wrote:

Stephen never believed in santa which was fine with me. I remember not getting anything for christmas and wondering why santa didn't bring me anything. My older sister told me he wasn't real and that it was up to our parents to provide christmas. Knowing that made me feel better.

Raven believes. She is in love with christmas. Not just gifts but everything that goes along with it(except the religious parts). I willing to follow her lead but I can only go so far. I can't tell her he is real if she ask.

Just being curious. Why can you not say he is real? You are Santa to her and you are very real.

We have talked about santa-like people but if she ask if santa(the one flying all around the world in one night) is real I will say no. I was never good at playing pretend.LOL

allvowels · Veteran Member

Alicia wrote:

CoffeeQueen wrote:

Alicia wrote:

Stephen never believed in santa which was fine with me. I remember not getting anything for christmas and wondering why santa didn't bring me anything. My older sister told me he wasn't real and that it was up to our parents to provide christmas. Knowing that made me feel better.

Raven believes. She is in love with christmas. Not just gifts but everything that goes along with it(except the religious parts). I willing to follow her lead but I can only go so far. I can't tell her he is real if she ask.

Just being curious. Why can you not say he is real? You are Santa to her and you are very real.

We have talked about santa-like people but if she ask if santa(the one flying all around the world in one night) is real I will say no. I was never good at playing pretend.LOL

I know what you mean. (I was good at playing pretend though! : )) If they flat out ask me if he's real, I don't think I will lie to them.

We don't really even talk about Santa much. They hear about him from friends, shows, etc. They did want to sit on his lap the other day at the mall, so I figured, "Why not?" Ummmm, still waiting in line an hour and a half later, I was like, "WHAT ARE WE DOING?!?!" It was brutal!! haha

It was funny, though---Addie goes, "Well, this isn't the real Santa. This is one of his helpers." I was like, "Oh, okay. Where did you hear that?" She said she just knew that. Okay, that's cool. Mostly I just take their lead with the Santa thing.

Tracy----I know how you feel. If they started equating Santa with God, we'd stop that for sure. I think Emilia did make a comment about what Jesus was bringing for Christmas! haha (I can totally see how they can get things mixed up a little bit....I mean, we pray to Jesus and thank Him and ask Him for things (health, blessings, etc.), and now at Christmas, we're celebrating Jesus' birthday and asking Santa for things. I am sure it's pretty confusing for 3 and 4 year olds!)

mctex · Guru

daisy wrote:

i have told you guys this before - but my mom told me that santa died of a heart attack at age 6. LMFAO. and that the easter bunny and tooth fairy were in a car accident.
it was totally ok - i wasnt traumatized.
i more felt silly for ever having believed (i never TRULY believed anyway).
it was fine - my mom was just really spicey in that way.

Whoa. I didn't know that.

That's a therapist's wet dream. LOL!

Corey · Guru

ditto to everything melissa said.

i won't ever come out and tell them. they have their entire lives to be grown ups, why not let them stay innocent as long as possible?

Lizzy · Guru

I love the idea of a santa...it is such a magical time and one of my favorite memories as a chiild is my mom singing "Santa Claus is Coming to Town". I don't know if I will ever actually tell Ivy Santa is not real, I will most likely, explain where the tradition comes from, etc.

daisy · Guru

mctex wrote:

daisy wrote:

i have told you guys this before - but my mom told me that santa died of a heart attack at age 6. LMFAO. and that the easter bunny and tooth fairy were in a car accident.
it was totally ok - i wasnt traumatized.
i more felt silly for ever having believed (i never TRULY believed anyway).
it was fine - my mom was just really spicey in that way.

Whoa. I didn't know that.
That's a therapist's wet dream. LOL!

lol. i know. my mom is a piece of work. i love how she "broke the news." my mom kills me. it's totally OK though, being the third child and all - i sorta knew all along. my sister is 11 yrs older than me. there's not a huge chance i was going to *really* believe.