I miss Sonya posting these. Why does she have to work?
So, given how my days have been going, I have a question for all of you. Lately, E has been really, really, really difficult. I am at some of her behavior. So:
Do you say to your child in some form or another that Santa is watching; Santa won't bring presents; or some similar thing when your child is not behaving right now?
Kaylin has been driving me crazy. Defiant. Stubborn. Crying at everything. Ugh! The Santa threat has been going strong for a few weeks now, all the good it does.
I have quit with saying anything about Santa not coming, because everything is bought and I know she will get presents. I have the Elf on the Shelf, which I now is solely focused on the positive.
It doesn't help that I am starting to become rather stressed. I said I this year I wasn't going to do this.
I miss Sonya posting these. Why does she have to work?
So, given how my days have been going, I have a question for all of you. Lately, E has been really, really, really difficult. I am at some of her behavior. So:
Do you say to your child in some form or another that Santa is watching; Santa won't bring presents; or some similar thing when your child is not behaving right now?
Uh yeah! LMAO
We start threatening with the santa thing right after Thanksgiving.
With Sarah I've been asking her if what she's doing is naughty or nice.
We've been using the heck out of it... LOL. It's not doing a whole lot of a lot of good however. She's been just pilladicious lately! Maybe it's all the excitement.
I'm thanking my stars that I can't pass up a bargain and have a bunch of generic gifts in my closet. It saved my bottom yet again today. I forgot to get our custodians something for the holidays. We quickly made cookies and I found a See and Say for our primary custodians toddler. Phew. Now if I can just hunt them down to give them away.
yes and no. I'm trying not to because Gavin is starting in on Owen - "owen, you're on the naughty list now. Mommy, I'm gonna write his name on the naughty list!" And then Owen gets mad "I not on naughty list, I good boy!" And then he pushes Gavin. And then Gavin says "Owen! Stop it! You're on the naughty list. We don't push!!!" And the cycle is never ending.
So, we do not do the naughty and nice list but I do remind them that Santa is coming but they have to listen to me and make good choices if they want him to come.
I'm so worn out by Jake right now. I him to death but the following is close to sending me over the edge:
"you're not nice" directed at me all.the.freaking.time
stealing his sisters nose or some other constant form of torture just to make her have a melt down and she does have a melt down every.single.freaking.time. The girl's screams could melt butter, break glass. I'm not even kidding - they hurt me to my very core!
So yes, I say Santa is watching, I'm going to call Santa . . .yada yada yada. Doesn't really work
i am not using it with mikey because he gets so totally freaked out he just melts down entirely. i'm not even sure he understands why he's upset - he just hears "naughty" and thinks he's going to time out.
he IS a real handful these days though. he started calling names - like stupid and, my personal favorite) sugar nose. it is HARD to keep a straight face and discipline someone who is calling you sugar nose with a very angry look on his face.
I have threatened a couple of times (like today), but on the whole, I don't use the Santa thing much.
Anna likes to tell me that Santa shouldn't bring me anything because I yell too much. (insert eyeroll) Thing is, I hardly yell anyway!!! Well, compared to the way I used to be, lmao. But I would say maybe a couple of times a week, and that is only during the second two weeks of my cycle. I don't yell at all during the first two weeks of my cycle.
I am fed up with them today fo sho though, and I told them I was about ready to call Santa and tell him not to bother stopping here...
i have never used a santa threat - because i know i will never follow through with it and that is not honest.
i know, sounds stupid - bert and i decided early on we would never threaten anything to our kids unless we fully intended to go through with it. as well, if we give a punishment, we always follow through. we are very straightforward and clear on that front, and down the line i think it has been benefitial to our kids behaviour as well as our relationship with them... they know if we say something, its not a joke and we mean business.
i have said on occasion "you want to be good because santa is watching" but do not threaten not giving presents or giving rocks instead.
It doesn't work b/c I get a pang of guilt thinking about it and knowing I can't go through with it so I don't do it anymore. I just grit my teeth and find another way to deal with it.
at some of her behavior. So:
So does she remember?
him to death but the following is close to sending me over the edge:
