Well, Jason didn't get out yesterday. They're waiting on some other lawyer to agree to lower the bond, and since he's a LSU alumni, he's probably at the game this weekend.
My mom just left from our house. She was sitting in the recliner and all of a sudden broke down crying saying "Why won't he help him?" (talking about my Dad) "I guess he hates him". My dad hasn't called Eric, Jason's lawyer, not one time today. I have no idea why. Mom and Dad had an arguement first thing this morning with Daddy saying some unkind, stupid remarks to her.
Honestly? I think Daddy's punishing Jason for HIS own alcoholism, I really do. It wasn't too terribly long ago that they found out Jason was back to his old tricks and Daddy told him then that if he got picked up again it was getting to the point they couldn't help him. So I think he's "teaching him a lesson". In the meantime, it's TEARING my mom's heart out
While I know my brother broke the law, he's a good guy and just needs help. He already thinks my dad hates him, so I'm sure with him sitting in jail with nothing else to think about, he's REALLY thinking it now.
I'm worried, about the whole thing now..Please, please, step up the P&PT. My family really needs it
I am really really sorry your family is going through this. What i am writing here is out of love for you...
I come from a btdt situation with my uncle when I was younger and he was in his 30's.
my grandparents finally needed to let him stew in jail a few days. because for over a decade he NEVER made the effort to get better - knowing his dad was gonna get him and hand him a wad of cash to just go out and do it again.
if Jason is sitting in jail and he is thinking "daddy hates me because he is not running here to bail me out yet again" rather than "oh my god, what did i do to get here, i need to get help so i never do it again".... well, then bailing Jason out is not going to help at all. sorry Jenn.... Jason needs to take responsibility for his actions and not blame anyone else but himself. (and perhaps your mom could use a bit of this prespective too)
i am sorry your parents are conflicted. and imo, i think your father perhaps finally has the strength in himself to start moving this in a direction where finally Jason will be able to get help sometime in the future.
i am sorry that your mother is so sad - i have watched my grandma bawling for years. She is now 93 and on her deathbed and STILL has incredible guilt/remorse over this uncle. (And she REALLY cried when my uncle was in his 40's and he and his wife were piss drink they had a car accident and rolled their car in a ditch - my uncle was in a coma for 6 days and my aunt broke her neck and was months in a halo brace and even to this day needs a cane to walk and in mentally only about 80%....thank god they only hurt themselves - dui's often claim innocent victims...)
tough love is hard. but it IS love...
i am praying that Jason gets the help he needs and as well for you and your mom and dad to help you through these painful moments.
i am just so sorry you all are dealing with this- it sucks.
ETA - my grandfather was an alcoholic as well, and he raised 2 sons, my uncles who were/still are bad alcoholics as well.
-- Edited by muffy on Sunday 25th of October 2009 04:29:54 AM
-- Edited by muffy on Sunday 25th of October 2009 04:32:04 AM
I know how hard all of it is...fwiw, Andrew spent about 3 week in jail and another month in "rehab" and he is doing much better. He has moved up two levels and is meeting all his goals for the drug court.
I am really really sorry your family is going through this. What i am writing here is out of love for you...
I come from a btdt situation with my uncle when I was younger and he was in his 30's.
my grandparents finally needed to let him stew in jail a few days. because for over a decade he NEVER made the effort to get better - knowing his dad was gonna get him and hand him a wad of cash to just go out and do it again.
if Jason is sitting in jail and he is thinking "daddy hates me because he is not running here to bail me out yet again" rather than "oh my god, what did i do to get here, i need to get help so i never do it again".... well, then bailing Jason out is not going to help at all. sorry Jenn.... Jason needs to take responsibility for his actions and not blame anyone else but himself. (and perhaps your mom could use a bit of this prespective too)
i am sorry your parents are conflicted. and imo, i think your father perhaps finally has the strength in himself to start moving this in a direction where finally Jason will be able to get help sometime in the future.
i am sorry that your mother is so sad - i have watched my grandma bawling for years. She is now 93 and on her deathbed and STILL has incredible guilt/remorse over this uncle. (And she REALLY cried when my uncle was in his 40's and he and his wife were piss drink they had a car accident and rolled their car in a ditch - my uncle was in a coma for 6 days and my aunt broke her neck and was months in a halo brace and even to this day needs a cane to walk and in mentally only about 80%....thank god they only hurt themselves - dui's often claim innocent victims...)
tough love is hard. but it IS love...
i am praying that Jason gets the help he needs and as well for you and your mom and dad to help you through these painful moments.
i am just so sorry you all are dealing with this- it sucks.
ETA - my grandfather was an alcoholic as well, and he raised 2 sons, my uncles who were/still are bad alcoholics as well.
-- Edited by muffy on Sunday 25th of October 2009 04:29:54 AM
-- Edited by muffy on Sunday 25th of October 2009 04:32:04 AM
Megan, I'm in total agreement with you, Jason needs to take responsibility!! He's still in jail as we speak, so he's been there 9 days. They're going to get him today and he's going to a 90 day Christian based rehab this week I think.
The part in red is EXACTLY what I told Mom, and asked how would he feel if he had hit a family with children and killed them? Or anyone for that matter??
My grandfather was an alcoholic as well, so this was passed right on down to my dad, now to Jason. I have an uncle who's one as well, so it sounds like you and I have had some of the same relatives, lol. In fact, one of my uncles was killed in the early 80's when he had a head on collision while drinking and driving.
