UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Kate will NOT use the potty. Make no mistake-she CAN. But she WON'T. Her teacher was surprised last week when she commented on how well Kate was doing with the potty, and I told her she wouldn't at home.
WTF am I going to do with this child???
Ok, so no-she doesn't *need* to use the potty for any reason, but most of her classmates use the potty-and she is older than all but one of them. Even the little boy who JUST turned 2 uses the potty! (for pee, anyway) And she is starting ballet class after her birthday and based on the kids who are in the first session with Anna, Kate will be the ONLY on in there who doesn't use the potty.
Frankly, it is getting to be a little embarassing to have a child that most people think is more like 4 than 3 and who is still wearing a diaper.
Any advice? I know it is a total control thing-but unless I am willing to send her to live my mother or her teacher for a while, she is just digging her heels in with me.
Do you have her in a diaper at home and school? What about just taking the diaper off at home and see what she does. Does she care if she pees her pants?
I was going to say the same thing, Laura. I'd take away her diapers completely and deal with the mess. It will be a pain in the ass but she'll figure it out. Just be prepared for a lot of laundry. lol.
Do you have her in a diaper at home and school? What about just taking the diaper off at home and see what she does. Does she care if she pees her pants?
IDK-I haven't left her out of her diaper since we tried this summer-and failed miserably.
I put her in a pull up for school (diaper at home because they are cheaper and she just pees herself anyway), and she will usually stay dry until I pick her up. And she will sometimes tell us when she is peeing (funny example-we went to the zoo last month, and she was in the stall with my mom in the bathroom. She heard my mom peeing, and she exclaimed, "Mamaw, I'm making wee-wee too!!!" at the top of her lungs, lmao).
IDK why I am afraid to do that-I guess I just don't want to clean up the mess. I do remember having a bad episode with Anna a few months before her 3rd birthday, so I put training aside for a few months, then when we revisited it (right before she turned 3), she did it like a champ.
I was going to say the same thing, Laura. I'd take away her diapers completely and deal with the mess. It will be a pain in the ass but she'll figure it out. Just be prepared for a lot of laundry. lol.
Ugh. This is not the advice I wanted, lmao. I was hoping you had a magic formula or something!!!!
Blah. I guess you are right-I just don't feel like dealing with it.
Ok, I'll try to gear myself up for the mess, find a week that is pretty low key in terms of activities and just go for it.
I was going to say the same thing, Laura. I'd take away her diapers completely and deal with the mess. It will be a pain in the ass but she'll figure it out. Just be prepared for a lot of laundry. lol.
Ugh. This is not the advice I wanted, lmao. I was hoping you had a magic formula or something!!!!
Blah. I guess you are right-I just don't feel like dealing with it.
Ok, I'll try to gear myself up for the mess, find a week that is pretty low key in terms of activities and just go for it.
But I am not looking forward to it.
well, you can start slowly. Get rubber/plastic pants and put over her underwear at home. This way it catches most of the pee, but she can feel it. See how she reacts. I hated potty training, but I really think she is ready at 3. If she can hold it all the time at school then she has control. She is just opting to not do it. Just be ready to be patient and expect a lot of pee. I hope he decides she does not like the wet feeling.
I was going to say the same thing, Laura. I'd take away her diapers completely and deal with the mess. It will be a pain in the ass but she'll figure it out. Just be prepared for a lot of laundry. lol.
Ugh. This is not the advice I wanted, lmao. I was hoping you had a magic formula or something!!!!
Blah. I guess you are right-I just don't feel like dealing with it.
Ok, I'll try to gear myself up for the mess, find a week that is pretty low key in terms of activities and just go for it.
But I am not looking forward to it.
well, you can start slowly. Get rubber/plastic pants and put over her underwear at home. This way it catches most of the pee, but she can feel it. See how she reacts. I hated potty training, but I really think she is ready at 3. If she can hold it all the time at school then she has control. She is just opting to not do it. Just be ready to be patient and expect a lot of pee. I hope he decides she does not like the wet feeling.
Oooo-good idea with the plastic pants. I will definitely get some of those. And Anna just moved up from the 4T undies to a 6 (I think that is what they are-it was the next size up), so I have all of her undies (clean, of course) that we can use in the beginning so I can save the new, special ones I bought for her for when she actually does it.
I mean, I have told her as soon as she learns, we will go to BAB, I have a toy sitting out in plain sight for her, she doesn't care. I try not to bring it up, but it is hard not to. But as soon as *I* suggest using the potty, I can see in her face that she is deciding if she wants to give in and do it, or dig her heels in and refuse. Needless to say, the latter usually wins. (I am currently rolling my eyes here)
She HAS to be willing at some point!!!! She can't just stay in diapers forever!!!!!
I agree with the others. And make sure she's wearing underwear and pants so it's uncomfortable for her when she pees.
I always just resign myself to the fact that I'll have to get the carpets cleaned after "no diaper around the house training."
Also I love bribery. Maybe a sticker or a candy corn every time she uses the potty.
See-the carpets and the couch are probably the biggest reasons I don't want to do it. I am dreading that!!! (I would put her in a pull up for napping and bed)
She has not seemed to be motivated by bribery, but maybe I just haven't found the right thing yet, kwim?
Thanks girls-even though I am not pleased that no one has a magic wand I can borrow, at least I am hearing what I already figured I would have to do but have been avoiding like the plague.
no magic wand either... and ita with the undies, plastic cover and bribes route.
my SIL is dealing with the same thing - with Thor who will be 4 in January.
sometimes this happens - and it is not unusual to have a kid who totally resists the potty training stuff... frustrating as heck, though - thats for sure!
Ever since Kevin just about fell in to the toilet way back, he's been terrified to sit on it again....including the small potty seat. He refuses to try at school, too. I've tried bribery and even went a day with underwear, but he hated it and demanded a diaper be put back on.
I'm just like you...I don't want to deal with the mess, but it's looking like that's the only way to go. The school said they would even be willing to deal with it, just bring him in underwear and go from there. But with our upcoming move and change, I think we're going to hold off for a few more months. We'll just keep asking him if he wants to try the potty like we always do.
ITU. Brittany still won't stay dry unless she has bribes. Accidents constantly and they don't seem to bother her much. Drives me nuts. But at least she'll stay dry if she gets candy when she stays dry.
I've only had 1 child that was completely potty trained before 3 and only 1 other that was potty trained before 4. My last 3 all fought me until 4yo and Brenna still isn't night time trained and she'll be 6 in Jan.
Ever since Kevin just about fell in to the toilet way back, he's been terrified to sit on it again....including the small potty seat. He refuses to try at school, too. I've tried bribery and even went a day with underwear, but he hated it and demanded a diaper be put back on.
I'm just like you...I don't want to deal with the mess, but it's looking like that's the only way to go. The school said they would even be willing to deal with it, just bring him in underwear and go from there. But with our upcoming move and change, I think we're going to hold off for a few more months. We'll just keep asking him if he wants to try the potty like we always do.
Good luck! *You* can do it! :)
UGH!!!!! That sucks, Jolynn. IHNI you were having this trouble too!!!!
These kids can be ssooooooooo stubborn. Seriously-it is so hard to deal with!! And the mess is horrid. I know it isn't the end of the world, but it is just so much more to do, kwim? And we have such a small house that I feel like we can't very well quarantine one room for this or anything.
ITU. Brittany still won't stay dry unless she has bribes. Accidents constantly and they don't seem to bother her much. Drives me nuts. But at least she'll stay dry if she gets candy when she stays dry.
I've only had 1 child that was completely potty trained before 3 and only 1 other that was potty trained before 4. My last 3 all fought me until 4yo and Brenna still isn't night time trained and she'll be 6 in Jan.
Wow Alaina. IHNI how you have stayed sane all these years dealing with this! I HATE potty training, and it was easy as pie with Anna. I guess I was spoiled, and Kate is showing me who's boss.
They won't go to college in diapers, right? That is what I keep saying to myself!
