leah, not sure what you posted since you edited, but i can definitely say that emily is a piece of work right now and most afternoons i just want to lock myself in my room to get away from her.
I'm not glad that others are dealing with it, but it's good to not be in it alone.
Apies, it was a long azz novel, but the short of it is that Hannah threw a massive fit in a public place today, a stranger said something about calling the cops on me because they thought I was beating her because she was screaming so loud, and I just felt like ... well, there isn't a word for it, but definately something worse than sh!t.
Just one of those days that was insanely rough. :( I hate days that make me feel like I'm not really enjoying parenting.
-- Edited by Cuppycake on Saturday 17th of October 2009 06:55:21 PM
I'm not glad that others are dealing with it, but it's good to not be in it alone.
Apies, it was a long azz novel, but the short of it is that Hannah threw a massive fit in a public place today, a stranger said something about calling the cops on me because they thought I was beating her because she was screaming so loud, and I just felt like ... well, there isn't a word for it, but definately something worse than sh!t.
Just one of those days that was insanely rough. :( I hate days that make me feel like I'm not really enjoying parenting.
-- Edited by Cuppycake on Saturday 17th of October 2009 06:55:21 PM
People are idiots. I can't believe someone would say that. Surely a child wouldn't cry for any other reason than because their parents are hurting them in some way. :eyeroll: unbelievable. I'm so sorry Leah. Tomorrow will be a better day!
Ugh. I am so sorry you dealt with that, Leah. You shouldn't have to at all-Kate throws hissys and people stare, but I figure they know enough to know when I kid is having a meltdown.
Anyway, as for 4? Well, I am constantly correcting Anna-like all.the.time. because she is so testy. Compared to other 4 year olds, I know she is still a breeze, but for *her* she has been a pita.
I'm not glad that others are dealing with it, but it's good to not be in it alone.
Apies, it was a long azz novel, but the short of it is that Hannah threw a massive fit in a public place today, a stranger said something about calling the cops on me because they thought I was beating her because she was screaming so loud, and I just felt like ... well, there isn't a word for it, but definately something worse than sh!t.
Just one of those days that was insanely rough. :( I hate days that make me feel like I'm not really enjoying parenting.
-- Edited by Cuppycake on Saturday 17th of October 2009 06:55:21 PM
i'm sorry leah! we are still dealing with alot of temper tantrums here also....so i know how you feel ((hugs))
and fwiw, you are a great mom...don't let some azzhole make you doubt that ;)
I really don't know how to judge if 4 is better or worse. I think the focus of the problems just have shifted. At any rate, my lovely daughter has had a screaming fit in public before and I am sure she will have one again. It happens, at least in my universe. So Leah, since you are just about 3 or so hours from me, I think it's pretty safe to say we are in the same universe. As for the jerk that made that comment,
I really don't know how to judge if 4 is better or worse. I think the focus of the problems just have shifted. At any rate, my lovely daughter has had a screaming fit in public before and I am sure she will have one again. It happens, at least in my universe. So Leah, since you are just about 3 or so hours from me, I think it's pretty safe to say we are in the same universe. As for the jerk that made that comment,
i know we don't all live in the same universe, since i live in real life and you guys all live in the internets... but, yes, 4 is the most difficult so far.
i know we don't all live in the same universe, since i live in real life and you guys all live in the internets... but, yes, 4 is the most difficult so far.
:lmao!!!!
Leah - sorry some dude was being a totall azzhat... we all have had these moments, and yes in public even... that dude obviously does not have kids of his own.
aw leah i'm sorry. you saw my recent post right? that someone chased me out of the supermarket begging me not to abandon cara? telling me that she could run off? :eyeroll i was like "thanks i dont need the help, but thanks"---
tomorrow will totally be better. and if it's not, you might be better at laughing it off tomorrow. :)
the 4s here arent bad by the way, but who would even notice in the midst of cara's 2s...:shoothead
aw leah i'm sorry. you saw my recent post right? that someone chased me out of the supermarket begging me not to abandon cara? telling me that she could run off? :eyeroll i was like "thanks i dont need the help, but thanks"---
tomorrow will totally be better. and if it's not, you might be better at laughing it off tomorrow. :)
the 4s here arent bad by the way, but who would even notice in the midst of cara's 2s...:shoothead
I totally did. I'm realizing that I'm more effected by how others react than I should be... I really let that whole audience effect me, and sadly, Hannah did, too. Once she realized she had a captive audience, it was like no holds barred. She went nuts. But once I got her home, it was easier.
I need to get back on a good routine of some good meds, as bad as that sounds. I'm totally not in a good place, and I probably needed that whole situation to make me realize it, because I just couldn't cope with it in an appropriate way. Argh.
Daniel is SO MUCH MORE whiny! Im not sure if its bc he's in school or the having to share attention when the grandbaby is over or what...but the whining and the SCREAMING when he gets mad is driving me nuts.
Overall he's still fairly good, but when he gets into whine or scream mode i just want to rip my hair out.
aw leah i'm sorry. you saw my recent post right? that someone chased me out of the supermarket begging me not to abandon cara? telling me that she could run off? :eyeroll i was like "thanks i dont need the help, but thanks"---
tomorrow will totally be better. and if it's not, you might be better at laughing it off tomorrow. :)
the 4s here arent bad by the way, but who would even notice in the midst of cara's 2s...:shoothead
I totally did. I'm realizing that I'm more effected by how others react than I should be... I really let that whole audience effect me, and sadly, Hannah did, too. Once she realized she had a captive audience, it was like no holds barred. She went nuts. But once I got her home, it was easier.
I need to get back on a good routine of some good meds, as bad as that sounds. I'm totally not in a good place, and I probably needed that whole situation to make me realize it, because I just couldn't cope with it in an appropriate way. Argh.
hugs to you.
sometimes you do need an eyeopening day. i have moments like that too, (most recently just sitting on the counter SOBBING with my heart racing in a full fledged panic attack). whatever it is, whether it's a bad day with the kids, a night where youre so stressed you cant breathe, i huge blowout with your mom - those are telling moments and you need to act on them.
the prob i have is that moments like that are fleeting. i'll get through it and then thing "ok it was a bad day, lets move on" - this is adaptive, but if you really know in that moment that you need help, you need to somehow retain that knowledge and make a proactive move once youre back to yourself. that's the hardest part i think.
UGH! Leah, I'm so sorry you had to deal with all of that.
I don't know if it is turning 4, or starting school but lately Lucas ia 4 going on 15 and has so much ATTITUDE! I remember one of my friends telling me, "It's the terrible two, the troublesome threes, and the FREAKING fours" Some days it is just pulling teeth to get him to do simple things.... anyway, I'm sorry you had such a crappy day. It sucks when strangers put there 2 cents in and make the situation worse! Big Hugs to you
I'm not glad that others are dealing with it, but it's good to not be in it alone.
Apies, it was a long azz novel, but the short of it is that Hannah threw a massive fit in a public place today, a stranger said something about calling the cops on me because they thought I was beating her because she was screaming so loud, and I just felt like ... well, there isn't a word for it, but definately something worse than sh!t.
Just one of those days that was insanely rough. :( I hate days that make me feel like I'm not really enjoying parenting.
-- Edited by Cuppycake on Saturday 17th of October 2009 06:55:21 PM
Aw, Leah! You aren't alone. The last time Colin threw a fit in a public place and I got nasty looks I opened my mouth and not so politely told them that if they had children they understood my pain and could most likely offer some sympathy versus disapproving looks...And if they didn't have children then the moment they did I wish them the same pleasure I have and that I hope I'm around for their child's melt down so I can show them the same courtesy.
And yes- it definitely is getting worse before its getting better. Some days are easier than others. And its almost ALWAYS in public. Its like everything I did to my mother is coming back to haunt me.
