So, I'm going to do it....finally. I'm going to quit my job, and I'm scared out of my freakin mind! I've been at my rope's end for a very long time, hanging on by a thread, and I just can't do it anymore. I can't go on being this unhappy, it's really affecting my life in a big way - weight gain, stress, mean mommy, lazy wife.
Thankfully Dom is being supportive and has already told me numerous times to just quit. I don't know what I'd do if he wasn't on board. However, he did mention that it would be nice if I could wait until after we move...but when is that ever going to happen? I honestly don't think the house is going to sell anytime soon, at least not by the end of the year. And here's what we're thinking about that...
With the baby coming, we're thinking it might be best to just wait to move until after. So we've agreed that if the house doesn't sell by the end of the year, we'll take it off the market until at least next July. That way I won't have to worry about finding a new doctor/hospital, and I won't be big and preggie trying to pack/unpack boxes.
So now I need to talk to Dom again. I thought maybe I could hold on until the end of the pregnancy, save more money, take my maternity leave and then decide to either request another leave of absence or just leave the company. But I really don't think I can make it. I need to do this now. I'm so nervous and afraid, and I keep asking myself, "Are you nuts?!"
Ugh, I could really use some encouragement to just go through with it.....or maybe someone to just tell me I really am nuts.
As for the boys...I'd like for them to finish out the year (thru December) at their school. Then I'll keep Kevin home with me until he can start preschool. I found a great charter school very close to our house that has a pre-K program for significantly less than what we're paying now, and if we can get Kyle in there starting January for 3 days a week, that would be awesome. I called this morning for an orientation appointment, and the lady said they're full but you never know, a spot could open up by January. This would really be perfect for us, and then in the fall (if we're still here) Kyle could start Kindergarten (tuition-free) and Kevin could start preschool. Crossing my fingers on that one!
Anyway, sorry this is so long. I figure if I put it out there maybe there will be less of a chance of me chickening out. Thanks for reading.
I can't tell you you're nuts because I am THRILLED for you. Beyond thrilled. You can't live like this, with all that unhappiness. If you guys can manage - which it sounds like you can - then YAY!!! I am beyond happy for you. I think it is a great thing you are doing for yourself, your boys and your marriage.
And I am so happy you will be able to spend more time with the family and be pregnant without having to work. This is huge! I am seriously just so happy for you!
What a big decision, Jolynn! I think you will be very happy as a SAHM, but I completely understand your trepidation about quitting.
I will be praying for you! I can tell you that I was miserable in my job when I quit (this was before children), but I was nervous about making the choice. Our lives have been so much happier since I quit! Sure, we have less money, but in the long run, it really was the best choice for us, and definitely for me.
I have been hoping for this, honestly. The way I see it, by lowering your stress and removing unhealthy factors from your life, you're doing something to improve your health and well being, which is good for the baby and good for everyone around you...you're shoring up the foundation of your family when you make a choice that leads to a life you actually are glad to be living, kwim? Not that you're not grateful for what you have as-is, but you know what I mean. You shouldn't have to get up unhappy every day knowing that work will suck just like it did the day before, etc. -- life is too short to be miserable.
I'm relieved that you're making this choice, even though I would have supported whatever you chose. I think this will be good for your whole family in the long run. It sounds like you've thought it out well, and now you just need to trust that it will all work out. Things always seem to! You are an incredible person and a great mom, and you can do this. You have every right to be happy! Go snatch it back.
It is a big step to take. I think at this point you are ready though it is just that last bundle of nerves and anxiousness trying to talk you out of it.
Thank you all so much for the supportive and encouraging words today. :heart
After much talking and tears (darn hormones!) this afternoon with Dom, it's a definite go....next Friday during my regular monthly meeting with my manager.
And we decided that we can't take our house off the market - that will just delay our move, and we really really want to move. So we're going to make plans to leave and be in Abq by the start of the new year, leaving our house on the market here for as long as it takes, and living with Anne (sil) for the time being.
I'm excited! Still nervous and scared, but I'm going to do it!
I have no doubt this is the right decision for you J. It is so hard to make the jump for change, and I am so excited and happy that you are going to do it! I know you will not regret it. Good luck!!!
Jo, how exciting for you! I know the unknown is scary but this is a huge load off of you--stress is bad for the baby--and moving closer to your families, to the place where you want to live, will help you start to feel settled in your new life faster.
Thank you all so much for the supportive and encouraging words today. :heart
After much talking and tears (darn hormones!) this afternoon with Dom, it's a definite go....next Friday during my regular monthly meeting with my manager.
And we decided that we can't take our house off the market - that will just delay our move, and we really really want to move. So we're going to make plans to leave and be in Abq by the start of the new year, leaving our house on the market here for as long as it takes, and living with Anne (sil) for the time being.
I'm excited! Still nervous and scared, but I'm going to do it!
woohoo, jolynn!!!! i was super nervous about quitting my job too. but, the very minute after i finished telling my boss, i was ready to jump through the clouds. it was such a good feeling. staying at home is hard, but rewarding, and i think you will love it. yay!
Joylnn....I thought I replied to this, but just wanted to tell you "YAY"!! I think that it is a great idea and you will never regret it. (I also had a job I hated that I quit while pregnant w/ ivy) and it was the best move. Good luck!!
Thank you all so much for the supportive and encouraging words today. :heart
After much talking and tears (darn hormones!) this afternoon with Dom, it's a definite go....next Friday during my regular monthly meeting with my manager.
And we decided that we can't take our house off the market - that will just delay our move, and we really really want to move. So we're going to make plans to leave and be in Abq by the start of the new year, leaving our house on the market here for as long as it takes, and living with Anne (sil) for the time being.
I'm excited! Still nervous and scared, but I'm going to do it!
Jolynn you are so much stronger than you realize. I'm so glad you are finally doing what it takes to be happy. Change can be such a good thing and I see lots of wonderful things for you guys in the future. :) I will keep my fingers crossed the house sells soon so you can cross that off your worry list. Thinking of you and sending you big hugs!
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The way I see it, by lowering your stress and removing unhealthy factors from your life, you're doing something to improve your health and well being, which is good for the baby and good for everyone around you...you're shoring up the foundation of your family when you make a choice that leads to a life you actually are glad to be living, kwim? Not that you're not grateful for what you have as-is, but you know what I mean. You shouldn't have to get up unhappy every day knowing that work will suck just like it did the day before, etc. -- life is too short to be miserable.
