CheleLyn wrote:

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you know what i HATE...having to humor them. like when they are trying to tell me something or show me something that I honestly couldn't care less about but have to act like i'm really interested. some days are good though, some days i want to hear every single thing theyhave to say...until they say something so completely stupid that i have to wonder wth is going on in their mind that they would say something so stupid and off the wall.

as for activities. I HATE cooking WITH them. it's just too much stress for mei know some of them want to learn to cook, but i just cant do it...part of it is that i feel like if they are next to me, they are ON TOP of me, kwim...I need space. Don however has no problem letting them help cook. The most help I can tolerate is letting daniel help me hold the mixer if i'm using it. I am not crafty, i can not teach them to do things.

video games! i hate hate hate playing them. once in a while they ask me to play a game with them, but NO WAY! drives me CRAZY! i just tell them i will go do something else with them.

i don't mind reading aloud depending on the book, although it makes me sleepy. Once i start reading aloud, i start yawning, then my eyes start watering LOL

Overall though, i'm so controlling that MOST times they would rather not do some things with me because they know we just end up arguing.

What i do like though....getting my nails done and shopping and going to eat with keely. with the older boys it really depends on the day what they want to do and what mood any of us is in....i mean they are 17 and 14 so its not like they want to spend A LOT of time with mom anyway, so i do try to put on a happy face when they want some one on one time with mom. as for daniel, he just likes to go anyplace i do and since he is so good when i take places i usually dont mind.

now, i do have my days when i just can not pull it together to want to spend time with any of them...talking, eating, shopping, ANYTHING! i just want them to sometimes forget that i ever responded to momma, mom, mommy, mother. i do take one day a week to just hide in the bedroom for a few hours...and usually then its not alone time, somebody come in to sit on the bed and talk....which is fine once i have time to catch my breath.

I sometimes do like to talk to them when they can talk like grown up people...and by that i mean, when i can see that they have put thought into what they are saying and when i can see and hear how much they are maturing and using their own minds, kwim?

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i'm the same way about cooking with them chele. i cant stand it, and they are RIGHT underfoot. this is not a big kitchen at all and it totally stresses me out too.

Michele wrote:

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LDSMOM wrote:

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Anything but talking.  I don't like taking them places (at least not all at once, sometimes I enjoy taking only one or two with me), I don't like doing crafts with them, I don't like playing pretend (I didn't even like this as a kid), I don't like watching TV with them, I don't like building things with them, I don't like taking a walk with them....you name it, I pretty much don't like to do it.  I'm a very solitary type of person.  I like to read, but only certain books, and not aloud.  I like to do crafts, but only by myself.  I like to go places, but only alone.  I don't like sports except a rare few that I like to do alone.  I like to take walks but it's annoying to have to talk to someone or pay attention to someone else when I do.  I like to play games but not so much with my kids because there's no challenge.  I'm not a big TV person.....

So, I like to talk with my kids.  I didn't used to like to talk with younger kids, but I've learned to enjoy it and Rebecca and Crystal are getting to the age when they're a blast to hang out with if they're in a good mood and leave the teenage mentality behind.

I do enjoy the time I spend cleaning with my kids, if I'm forced to clean at all and they actually help me.  It's much more fun to do it together than alone.  But I don't like having to nag them to get them to do it.  If we're both working willingly, it's fun to do together.

Hmmm, I wonder if I get a break I'll actually start enjoying some of these things with my kids.   I haven't had more than a couple hours break at a time from them since Rebecca was born.  Maybe in about 5 years I'll get to leave for a day or two.

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You know I'm just going to say something about this because it has bothered me since last night.  Why bother having kids if this is how you feel about being with them.  Maybe you just had a bad day yesterday and had to vent.  I'm hoping that is the case because otherwise I just find this completely sad.

 

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CheleLyn wrote:

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Michele wrote:

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LDSMOM wrote:

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Anything but talking.  I don't like taking them places (at least not all at once, sometimes I enjoy taking only one or two with me), I don't like doing crafts with them, I don't like playing pretend (I didn't even like this as a kid), I don't like watching TV with them, I don't like building things with them, I don't like taking a walk with them....you name it, I pretty much don't like to do it.  I'm a very solitary type of person.  I like to read, but only certain books, and not aloud.  I like to do crafts, but only by myself.  I like to go places, but only alone.  I don't like sports except a rare few that I like to do alone.  I like to take walks but it's annoying to have to talk to someone or pay attention to someone else when I do.  I like to play games but not so much with my kids because there's no challenge.  I'm not a big TV person.....

So, I like to talk with my kids.  I didn't used to like to talk with younger kids, but I've learned to enjoy it and Rebecca and Crystal are getting to the age when they're a blast to hang out with if they're in a good mood and leave the teenage mentality behind.

I do enjoy the time I spend cleaning with my kids, if I'm forced to clean at all and they actually help me.  It's much more fun to do it together than alone.  But I don't like having to nag them to get them to do it.  If we're both working willingly, it's fun to do together.

Hmmm, I wonder if I get a break I'll actually start enjoying some of these things with my kids.   I haven't had more than a couple hours break at a time from them since Rebecca was born.  Maybe in about 5 years I'll get to leave for a day or two.

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You know I'm just going to say something about this because it has bothered me since last night.  Why bother having kids if this is how you feel about being with them.  Maybe you just had a bad day yesterday and had to vent.  I'm hoping that is the case because otherwise I just find this completely sad.

 

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i THINK...and this is only MY opinion...we should remember that she has several children...homeschools, is a SAHM, chauffers them to activities, cooks, cleans, laundry etc...kwim? I don't imagine Alaina has much alone time.

 

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Yes, I'm sure she does need some alone time.  As parents we all do at times.  I also have kids, am a SAHM, chauffer them to activities, cook, clean, laundry, and then I do those things for my mother and father as well and my husband does those things for his parents.  Being a parent, or a child for that matter, is not always easy but I have learned that we only have these moments in our lives once and we need to make the most of them.  I'm not saying that she doesn't love her children but children need physical, emotional, and mental affirmation and some of the main means of communicating that is through the actions she stated she doesn't like in her opening paragraph.  For the record, I understand that simply stating she doesn't like to do those things doesn't mean she doesn't do them.  

Like I said previously, maybe yesterday was one of those days that she just had to vent but it make me feel sad for her if she truly feels that way.

Michele wrote:

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LDSMOM wrote:

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Anything but talking.  I don't like taking them places (at least not all at once, sometimes I enjoy taking only one or two with me), I don't like doing crafts with them, I don't like playing pretend (I didn't even like this as a kid), I don't like watching TV with them, I don't like building things with them, I don't like taking a walk with them....you name it, I pretty much don't like to do it.  I'm a very solitary type of person.  I like to read, but only certain books, and not aloud.  I like to do crafts, but only by myself.  I like to go places, but only alone.  I don't like sports except a rare few that I like to do alone.  I like to take walks but it's annoying to have to talk to someone or pay attention to someone else when I do.  I like to play games but not so much with my kids because there's no challenge.  I'm not a big TV person.....

So, I like to talk with my kids.  I didn't used to like to talk with younger kids, but I've learned to enjoy it and Rebecca and Crystal are getting to the age when they're a blast to hang out with if they're in a good mood and leave the teenage mentality behind.

I do enjoy the time I spend cleaning with my kids, if I'm forced to clean at all and they actually help me.  It's much more fun to do it together than alone.  But I don't like having to nag them to get them to do it.  If we're both working willingly, it's fun to do together.

Hmmm, I wonder if I get a break I'll actually start enjoying some of these things with my kids.   I haven't had more than a couple hours break at a time from them since Rebecca was born.  Maybe in about 5 years I'll get to leave for a day or two.

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You know I'm just going to say something about this because it has bothered me since last night.  Why bother having kids if this is how you feel about being with them.  Maybe you just had a bad day yesterday and had to vent.  I'm hoping that is the case because otherwise I just find this completely sad.

 

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