Supafly wrote:

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Chrissie wrote:

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Supafly wrote:

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I forgot to answer the question of the day, lol.

*if* the weather holds out, Bill will do our front garden wall tomorrow.  Also on the list is mowing the grass (if it isn't too wet), removing the raspberries because they just get eaten by the birds anyway, getting topsoil for the garden after her completes the reataining wall, going to the farm to spray the grapes, and bottle wine, which should have been bottled months ago.

So basically, Bill will yet again be busy all weekend and I will be stuck with the kids.  As per usual.  Don't get me wrong, I know he would prefer to have time to spend with them, but I am tired of always being on deck.  Unfortunately, until it is harvest time, they can't go "help" him with the grapes, and there is poison ivy mixed in with the raspberries, and they can't do anything with the other things either.  But Bill doesn't seem to get it when I say I would like him to be around more to give me a break.  He says, "but your parents watched them on Wednesday" and I am like, "Yes, they did, and that was 3 days ago, and I won't get another break until next Wednesday, and I don't get breaks in the evenings because you aren't home early enough, and *you* get to leave your job at the end of the day, but expect me to always do mine with a smile."Re

Wow-I didn't realize I was feeling so bitter about this right now!!!!  I am tired of being busy all of the time.  And by that I mean I am tired of Bill always having stuff to do here or at the farm and us not being able to do fun family things on the weekends.  Thing is...I know he is tired of it too, so I don't BLAME him, I just wish he understood where I was coming from a bit better.

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Laura, sometimes I don't know which is worse, working outside of the home, or being a SAHM.  I feel like I never get a break from M2 and I'm at work all day, I can only imagine how you feel! 

 Re the red:  I totally understand that comment!!  I don't think men get it!

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I think the answer to that depends 100% on the person.  For me, I have no doubt that working would be worse.  I get very burnt out being with them all of the time, and if it weren't for my parents, I would go insane for sure.  It wasn't like this when Bill worked closer to home, but of course we are happy he has this job!  But while there are days I just am not sure I can take much more and I start feeling lost in the neverending parenting wheel, I know *I* would feel immense guilt if I were at work, and I am so so so grateful that I can stay home. (and I am not saying anyone *should* feel guilt about not being at home, I just know *I* would, even if I had no choice and had to work)

But I know lots of people who 100% feel they are much better parents BECAUSE they work and it just would not work at.all. for them to be at home all of the time. 

I guess I don't think one or the other is harder.  They are both hard, just in different ways.  Though I will say, I think it is harder for people who want to stay at home but don't have the means to do so, or for those who wish they were at work, but can't for whatever reason.  My BFF works, and she really does love her job, but she would give ANYTHING to be able to be in my shoes and stay home.  It is heartbreaking for me when she talks about it, and I feel so badly for her.

Anyway you slice it, being a mom is TOUGH.  And even though I am sure it isn't really like this, I swear I often feel like being a dad is a cakewalk.  And they really don't understand.  maybe a few of them really do, but I think the majority of them are just clueless.  If I believed in re-incarnation, I would wish for Bill to come back as a SAHM of 10, lol.

 

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Robin wrote:

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Yesterday, Mark was watching me get dressed after a shower, and he said, "Mama, why do grown-up girls have big, giant boobies?"

I said, "Do you think *I* have big, giant boobies?"

He said, "Yes."

He's my favorite. ;D

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sappy wrote:

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:sigh:

i'm totally getting sick. itchy ears, stuffy nose, sore throat & cough.

fabulous. this is exactly what i need this week.

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oh no, sara. :(

you have such a busy weekend too.  i hope you wake up feeling a million times better tomorrow.

i vote you go the nyquil route.

sappy wrote:

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when i win the mega millions tonight i won't care much about my cold.

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good luck!

i wish i had remembered to buy tickets.

oh well.

remember the little people.  ;)

i'm watching pursuit of happyness.  i've never seen it before.  it had better be good.  i'm ignoring dishes and laundry for it.