I didn't get a chance to read the article but I just read the blurb about the clitoral device and it made me feel kind of dirty thinking about going to an adult store or even using something like Adam and Eve to buy my daughter a clitoral stimulation device at the tender age of 15. I thought about what I would think of a mother who bought her daughter that device and I thought it shameful and rather perverse.

That being said- I have no idea how to even discuss that with a teenage. The teenage years are so awkward as it is. Add the embarassing discussion with Mom on masturbation and wowzers!

Now- that being said- I have Colin who is fascinated with his penis- and that's normal. I don't know a male to this day who still isn't fascinated with his penis. And I've been rather matter of fact in stating, "Colin, its perfectly ok but that's something you need to do in the privacy of your own room."

Ok. Not that bad.

But wowzers. Just thinking about the s-e-x talk gives me a panic attack. I don't think I could throw masturbation in on there.

I'll pass this one to Dad.

-- Edited by Jennie on Wednesday 12th of August 2009 08:53:15 AM

CoffeeQueen wrote:

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Ok, for those who have not heard Dr. Laura's advice on teaching teens about masturbation.

Here is a http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahshow/20090326-tows-talking-to-kids-about-sex/12

Here are a couple of blurbs she said from the site

To teach your 15- or 16-year-old daughter the concept of pleasure, Dr. Berman recommends a product many mothers may not think of getting for their daughters—a clitoral vibrator. "I know it's controversial, but I can tell you giving them this kind of information makes them safer in the long run," Dr. Berman says.

Dr. Berman recommends a small vibrator. "I'm talking about something external for the clitoris," she says. "I'm not talking about things that go internally at all—[just] things that they can explore externally to arouse them."

"The reason I suggest a vibrator is because so many women and girls and adult women have a hard time reaching orgasm through self-stimulation alone," she says. "This is just a way to normalize it and normalize sexual exploration."

n the study, only 4 percent of girls say their beliefs about sex are mostly influenced by their mothers—this is your chance to change that statistic. "You are arming them with the information they need to make wise sexual decisions," Dr. Berman says. "You want to be their main sex educators—not their friends who are going to give them the misinformation that you don't want them to have."

"You need to start early, letting them know you're open to conversations, answering their questions without judgment," Dr. Berman says. "Tell them that information does not mean permission."

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If she wants them to pleasure themselves instead of having sex then 15/16 is too late for a lot of kids.  Kid already know or find out everything about sex in middle school(correct info or not). 

 

Jennie wrote:

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Alicia wrote:

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CoffeeQueen wrote:

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Ok, for those who have not heard Dr. Laura's advice on teaching teens about masturbation.

Here is a http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahshow/20090326-tows-talking-to-kids-about-sex/12

Here are a couple of blurbs she said from the site

To teach your 15- or 16-year-old daughter the concept of pleasure, Dr. Berman recommends a product many mothers may not think of getting for their daughters—a clitoral vibrator. "I know it's controversial, but I can tell you giving them this kind of information makes them safer in the long run," Dr. Berman says.

Dr. Berman recommends a small vibrator. "I'm talking about something external for the clitoris," she says. "I'm not talking about things that go internally at all—[just] things that they can explore externally to arouse them."

"The reason I suggest a vibrator is because so many women and girls and adult women have a hard time reaching orgasm through self-stimulation alone," she says. "This is just a way to normalize it and normalize sexual exploration."

n the study, only 4 percent of girls say their beliefs about sex are mostly influenced by their mothers—this is your chance to change that statistic. "You are arming them with the information they need to make wise sexual decisions," Dr. Berman says. "You want to be their main sex educators—not their friends who are going to give them the misinformation that you don't want them to have."

"You need to start early, letting them know you're open to conversations, answering their questions without judgment," Dr. Berman says. "Tell them that information does not mean permission."

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If she wants them to pleasure themselves instead of having sex then 15/16 is too late for a lot of kids.  Kid already know or find out everything about sex in middle school(correct info or not). 

 

 

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Unfortunately, its often elementary school for some kids demanding. I can remember being 6 and hearing about things- again whether correct or not. By 8 I knew what sex was.

 

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What I meant is that they are having sex in middle school and waiting until 15/16(high school) is too late. 

 

Alicia wrote:

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Jennie wrote:

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Alicia wrote:

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CoffeeQueen wrote:

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Ok, for those who have not heard Dr. Laura's advice on teaching teens about masturbation.

Here is a http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahshow/20090326-tows-talking-to-kids-about-sex/12

Here are a couple of blurbs she said from the site

To teach your 15- or 16-year-old daughter the concept of pleasure, Dr. Berman recommends a product many mothers may not think of getting for their daughters—a clitoral vibrator. "I know it's controversial, but I can tell you giving them this kind of information makes them safer in the long run," Dr. Berman says.

Dr. Berman recommends a small vibrator. "I'm talking about something external for the clitoris," she says. "I'm not talking about things that go internally at all—[just] things that they can explore externally to arouse them."

"The reason I suggest a vibrator is because so many women and girls and adult women have a hard time reaching orgasm through self-stimulation alone," she says. "This is just a way to normalize it and normalize sexual exploration."

n the study, only 4 percent of girls say their beliefs about sex are mostly influenced by their mothers—this is your chance to change that statistic. "You are arming them with the information they need to make wise sexual decisions," Dr. Berman says. "You want to be their main sex educators—not their friends who are going to give them the misinformation that you don't want them to have."

"You need to start early, letting them know you're open to conversations, answering their questions without judgment," Dr. Berman says. "Tell them that information does not mean permission."

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If she wants them to pleasure themselves instead of having sex then 15/16 is too late for a lot of kids.  Kid already know or find out everything about sex in middle school(correct info or not). 

 

 

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Unfortunately, its often elementary school for some kids demanding. I can remember being 6 and hearing about things- again whether correct or not. By 8 I knew what sex was.

 

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What I meant is that they are having sex in middle school and waiting until 15/16(high school) is too late. 

 

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She is not saying talk about sex at 15/16. She thinks sex education should come very early on. She is talking about the whole issue of pleasuring themselves and not needing another person to. The fact that it is never talked about. So, she is not saying it will prevent kids from having sex. She is saying arm them with all the info and be comfortable with talking about it.