Let me jut start off by saying that I am SOOOO glad that facebook and mobile uploads weren't around when I was in high school!!!
One of my cousins who is 17 was just tagged on facebook in a picture. She's sitting on a shirtless guys lap drinking a beer. Her parents are not her facebook friends (but they are all friends with us.) She knows she has been tagged because her comment was LMAO.
I thought about emailing her Dad (my mom's cousin) and giving him a heads up, but I'm not sure if I should or not....
even if you come at it from the perspective of, "i saw a picture of mary on facebook that is fairly inappropriate. maybe someone could talk to her about the power of the internet and how those kinds of pictures can come back to haunt her" versus the "omg, mary was drinking!" perspective.
fb sucks. i have the same struggles with former students (thankfully not with family though).
even if you come at it from the perspective of, "i saw a picture of mary on facebook that is fairly inappropriate. maybe someone could talk to her about the power of the internet and how those kinds of pictures can come back to haunt her" versus the "omg, mary was drinking!" perspective.
fb sucks. i have the same struggles with former students (thankfully not with family though).
ditto.
i'd want someone to tell me if they saw something like that of jake.
I've been walking this line with my "baby" cousin (16) for a while now. On one hand, I'd like to clue in her mother- on the other- I'm able to monitor what is going on in her life so I can step in when the big stuff happens- I know as soon as I tell she will de-friend me.
So far, no drinking pics or drug pics. That would be when I would tell her mom.
Right now is just a bunch of boyfriend drama and some minor rule bending (curfew, taking the trains further than she is supposed to).
Tough one- and yeah- so glad this wasn't aroudn when I was a kiddo.
Tbh, I wouldn't unless she's doing something that looks dangerous... If she's hanging out with a beer, I wouldn't. If she's beligerant hanging on someone, that's a bit different.
Really, my main reason being that if she friended you, she trusts you - and the time may come where she is doing something that is seriously indangering her, and if it is, I hope she has someone on her list willing to say something to her parents. I'd say pick your battle, and I'm not sure that a beer is worth it.
Also wanted to add she lives in AL I am in GA. I see them once a year if that at family reunions. I'm not close to 17 year old (just cause we are in different stages of our lives) I think the only reason she sent me a friend request a year ago was so she could tag herself in some photos.
April, that's kind of along the lines of what I would say if I did message the parents.
even if you come at it from the perspective of, "i saw a picture of mary on facebook that is fairly inappropriate. maybe someone could talk to her about the power of the internet and how those kinds of pictures can come back to haunt her" versus the "omg, mary was drinking!" perspective.
fb sucks. i have the same struggles with former students (thankfully not with family though).
ITA with this, 100%.
Employers do look at this stuff, and posting things like that definitely could come back to haunt her, aside from the obvious inappropriateness of it all.
Someone beat me too it... her older brother! Apparantly he saw it, chewed her out, and gave the parents a heads up. He's married and settled down and fed up with her immaturity lately. He's always leaving her messages on her wall like get a J O B!!! (She is no longer in high school)
And then she made it her profile picture for a while until she got a picture with her and mom guys and more beers. Man I'm glad I'm not 17 and think I know everything anymore!!!
Scarry to think it seemed okay when we were that age. :) My neighbors kids just got arrested for underage. It was heartbreaking for her. All teenagers go through it. Hopefully soon she will realize how this could damage her future for a job, etc. But for now she's a kid, she has to learn her way. :) I would have been relieved to know someone else did the dirty work and would have wanted to confront her myself as well.. that is a fine line though.
