for about a month now, R wants to sleep with me every night. she starts crying at like 11 or 12 that she had a bad dream (halloween related - the scarier decorations freaked her OUT) and wants to come into my bed. and i let her bc she's crying sooo much, and i feel terrible. plus she hasnt been feeling great, so i think this is part of it - but this is going on for a WHILE now.
tonight she cried when i was putting her to bed, and same thing last night. she was saying she wanted to sleep with me. i asked her why, and she said "i'm afraid of the skeleton dreams" - so i was like "rach, is that REALLY the problem?" and she said "i just wake up and realize i'm all alone and i miss you" :( i feel terrible that she's up there feeling sad, but i also cant sleep with her every night. last night she kicked me ALL night - i got no sleep - mike's been on the couch, plus i have teh TV on all night (i dont want her used to the noise, but i cant sleep without it)... this is just not going away... suggestions?
grace is the same way, well, except it isn't scary dreams...she just consistently wakes up 95% of nights at around 3 or 4am. we won't let her sleep with us, but we also don't want to battle her to go back to bed. our compromise is keeping a crib mattress under our bed--if someone is scared and wants to sleep in our room they need to drag it out and bring their covers with them and sleep there.
Well, if I were actually making a real effort to get Elizabeth back in her bed at night, I have to drag myself out of bed and go and lay down with her in her bed. In the past we have done that and after a few nights she sleeps through the night. Unfortunately when we travel (which is often) she usually sleeps with us and then the cycle repeats. Given all of the other things she has been dealing with, we just decided to deal with it later. We also have a king sized bed, which helps a lot.
Sarah has been doing this too. I'm sure it's a phase so I'm not too worried. Actually just trying to enjoy my last little kiddle snuggling with me at night. We let her go to sleep in our bed sometimes and then we carry her back to her bed. 30% of the time she wakes up a couple of hours later and gets back in bed with us. Most nights I tell her that big girls stay in their beds all night and she falls for it. Some nights we carry her back to bed 2 or 3 times. We're just riding it out.
It must be an age thing. Last night Allie was up like 7 times and said she was scared. Rich brought her to bed around 5am after we could not get up again, but were up at 6 anyway.
for about a month now, R wants to sleep with me every night. she starts crying at like 11 or 12 that she had a bad dream (halloween related - the scarier decorations freaked her OUT) and wants to come into my bed. and i let her bc she's crying sooo much, and i feel terrible. plus she hasnt been feeling great, so i think this is part of it - but this is going on for a WHILE now.
tonight she cried when i was putting her to bed, and same thing last night. she was saying she wanted to sleep with me. i asked her why, and she said "i'm afraid of the skeleton dreams" - so i was like "rach, is that REALLY the problem?" and she said "i just wake up and realize i'm all alone and i miss you" :( i feel terrible that she's up there feeling sad, but i also cant sleep with her every night. last night she kicked me ALL night - i got no sleep - mike's been on the couch, plus i have teh TV on all night (i dont want her used to the noise, but i cant sleep without it)... this is just not going away... suggestions?
Hopefully, it the bad dreams will fade. I totally undertand how hard it is to sleep together though....if Ivy sleeps with me, I just get up and go in her bed and sleep ;)
Well, if I were actually making a real effort to get Elizabeth back in her bed at night, I have to drag myself out of bed and go and lay down with her in her bed. In the past we have done that and after a few nights she sleeps through the night. Unfortunately when we travel (which is often) she usually sleeps with us and then the cycle repeats. Given all of the other things she has been dealing with, we just decided to deal with it later. We also have a king sized bed, which helps a lot.
yeah i know. i think if i'd get out of bed and lay down with her, it could help - i just am TOO TIRED!!!
grace is the same way, well, except it isn't scary dreams...she just consistently wakes up 95% of nights at around 3 or 4am. we won't let her sleep with us, but we also don't want to battle her to go back to bed. our compromise is keeping a crib mattress under our bed--if someone is scared and wants to sleep in our room they need to drag it out and bring their covers with them and sleep there.
this is smart...love it. corey you have such a practicality about you - i love it.
What about laying with her in her room till she falls asleep? Will that help?
Leave a night lamp on? Give her a flashlight?
i tried a nightlight - she said it makes too many shadows. i think it used to be that she was afraid, and now it's just that she doesnt want to be alone when she does wake up. yeah i really need to lay with her in her room. the issue is that i have like 2 good hours before i absolutely konk out and i have to work in those two hours - i really cant lay there indefinitely!! (i can at 2am. but i cant at 8pm).
We are having many issues lately with Charlie's fears.
He and Rachel are so much alike. We're really pushing to get him to tell us his fears instead of letting them fester.
He has the stairs to the attic in his room. He's scared to get in or out of bed because of it. He's scared to go into our room when it's dark because he's scared of our closet. He's scared to go to the bathroom when it's dark because he's scared of the hallway.
He was scared of a cloth wall hanging at my MILs because he said she said it come off the wall - she meant the actual hanging. He thought she meant the figure in the hanging comes alive and comes out of the hanging. He's been worried about this for a year now but never told us.
I really think he lives too much in his head. It's so hard to know what's going on in there.
Anyway, I hope R gets over it quickly. It's so hard to deal with.
Sarah has been doing this too. I'm sure it's a phase so I'm not too worried. Actually just trying to enjoy my last little kiddle snuggling with me at night. We let her go to sleep in our bed sometimes and then we carry her back to her bed. 30% of the time she wakes up a couple of hours later and gets back in bed with us. Most nights I tell her that big girls stay in their beds all night and she falls for it. Some nights we carry her back to bed 2 or 3 times. We're just riding it out.
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thank you guys so much for your input and i'm SO glad i'm not the only one!! i have spent so much time worrying about R's anxieties even though i KNOW they are totally age appropriate. i decided i'm goign to go with the kristi approach on this one. just let it ride out. she didnt come into my bed last night. i made a big deal about it this morning - "i'm so happy you had a great sleep!! it wasnt so bad was it!! you have such a pretty room with all your favorite things in there - isnt it great waking up to all pink??" etc.
sonya - R and C are totally going to meet in college - they're going to have some great stories to swap huh??? cut from the same cloth, those two.
thank you guys so much for your input and i'm SO glad i'm not the only one!! i have spent so much time worrying about R's anxieties even though i KNOW they are totally age appropriate. i decided i'm goign to go with the kristi approach on this one. just let it ride out. she didnt come into my bed last night. i made a big deal about it this morning - "i'm so happy you had a great sleep!! it wasnt so bad was it!! you have such a pretty room with all your favorite things in there - isnt it great waking up to all pink??" etc.
sonya - R and C are totally going to meet in college - they're going to have some great stories to swap huh??? cut from the same cloth, those two.
That is great!
so funny, but I do the same thing w/ ivy...I lay there and say "look at your room, what is your favorite thing, etc." because she focuses on the shadows on the ceiling, etc and thinks she sees things and gets scared (but, I lay there and think what I could change...lol)
thank you guys so much for your input and i'm SO glad i'm not the only one!! i have spent so much time worrying about R's anxieties even though i KNOW they are totally age appropriate. i decided i'm goign to go with the kristi approach on this one. just let it ride out. she didnt come into my bed last night. i made a big deal about it this morning - "i'm so happy you had a great sleep!! it wasnt so bad was it!! you have such a pretty room with all your favorite things in there - isnt it great waking up to all pink??" etc.
sonya - R and C are totally going to meet in college - they're going to have some great stories to swap huh??? cut from the same cloth, those two.
That is great!
so funny, but I do the same thing w/ ivy...I lay there and say "look at your room, what is your favorite thing, etc." because she focuses on the shadows on the ceiling, etc and thinks she sees things and gets scared (but, I lay there and think what I could change...lol)
ohhhhhhhhh my god we're soulmates - i do the SAME thing. i'm like, that pic is too high - do i have extra paint in this color? i'm going to have to patch that part up...she needs more hat boxes....these curtains arent hanging right - LOL
thank you guys so much for your input and i'm SO glad i'm not the only one!! i have spent so much time worrying about R's anxieties even though i KNOW they are totally age appropriate. i decided i'm goign to go with the kristi approach on this one. just let it ride out. she didnt come into my bed last night. i made a big deal about it this morning - "i'm so happy you had a great sleep!! it wasnt so bad was it!! you have such a pretty room with all your favorite things in there - isnt it great waking up to all pink??" etc.
sonya - R and C are totally going to meet in college - they're going to have some great stories to swap huh??? cut from the same cloth, those two.
That is great!
so funny, but I do the same thing w/ ivy...I lay there and say "look at your room, what is your favorite thing, etc." because she focuses on the shadows on the ceiling, etc and thinks she sees things and gets scared (but, I lay there and think what I could change...lol)
ohhhhhhhhh my god we're soulmates - i do the SAME thing. i'm like, that pic is too high - do i have extra paint in this color? i'm going to have to patch that part up...she needs more hat boxes....these curtains arent hanging right - LOL
it is sad really...I am never satisfied (poor Don) ;)
btw....did you start on Cara's room? (I can't remember)
thank you guys so much for your input and i'm SO glad i'm not the only one!! i have spent so much time worrying about R's anxieties even though i KNOW they are totally age appropriate. i decided i'm goign to go with the kristi approach on this one. just let it ride out. she didnt come into my bed last night. i made a big deal about it this morning - "i'm so happy you had a great sleep!! it wasnt so bad was it!! you have such a pretty room with all your favorite things in there - isnt it great waking up to all pink??" etc.
sonya - R and C are totally going to meet in college - they're going to have some great stories to swap huh??? cut from the same cloth, those two.
That is great!
so funny, but I do the same thing w/ ivy...I lay there and say "look at your room, what is your favorite thing, etc." because she focuses on the shadows on the ceiling, etc and thinks she sees things and gets scared (but, I lay there and think what I could change...lol)
ohhhhhhhhh my god we're soulmates - i do the SAME thing. i'm like, that pic is too high - do i have extra paint in this color? i'm going to have to patch that part up...she needs more hat boxes....these curtains arent hanging right - LOL
it is sad really...I am never satisfied (poor Don) ;)
btw....did you start on Cara's room? (I can't remember)
nope. i'm not even thinking about cara's room till she's between 3 and 4 :) i'm thinking lavendar for the walls but by then, she'll have an opinion kwim? so i'm just going to wait. after the kitchen fiasco with the painting, i'm just not painting for a while. :) hows your kitchen?
are you done with the kitchen? hint, hint (pics ;)
we are going to start in january, so nothing right now. we also won't finish the bathroom until january, but i have a plan for that! I have a mood board made....i'll post it in a couple minutes :)
I can't even remember the last time Dominic slept in his own bed, probably about 4 months ago. He just freaks out when he has to sleep by himself. For awhile it was a problem because he wanted someone in our bed with him to go to sleep, he has finally gotten back into a routine where he is usually asleep in our bed by himself by about 8:30. He watches tv (which was a habit I never wanted to get into to but oh well) and then falls asleep. If I move him he just comes back into our room so I figure at least we are all getting sleep and hopefully it is a phase and he will want to sleep in his own room some day. I try to look at it that it won't be like this forever and I know there will probably be a day when he is older when he won't even want to hug me so I try to take advantage of it now.
